I sat in a Wednesday night women’s Bible study, tears in my eyes, wondering what God was doing with my life. I started the class while they were reading through one of Lysa TerKeurst’s books that I just could not relate to at this point in my life. I had just received divorce papers stating that I could lose primary custody of the child that I had been home with since before his birth. My entire identity had been wife and mother for well over a decade. During that time, I was proud that this is what I’d be known for in life. I silently cried while the other woman talked about arguing with their husbands about folding the laundry or how they were angry about driving kids to sports practices five nights a week. My world was crumbling; I didn’t care about the laundry or much else. My kids weren’t even seeing their dad at all. He would come home very late at night and leave for work before we were even up – just enough time to sleep and shower. And even before he filed for divorce, he was never around on the weekends to argue about anything. I found out later that he was wining and dining someone else on those late nights and weekends away.
Several months later, while we were finalizing the divorce, the Wednesday night church ladies started a new Bible study. It was about God’s divine destiny, even for those who experienced much pain and sorrow in their lives. God’s timing was perfect as I started to accept that my marriage was over and maybe God had something better for my life. I would now be a divorced woman and single mom. I needed to embrace that fact. Through this Bible study I heard from God that my unwanted divorce would be used for a purpose and that my pain would help minister to others. My new identity would be “daughter” and “woman of ministry” instead of just divorced, forsaken, and discarded. And I would go on to save many lives, if I were willing to surrender to His plans.
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