Maybe you, like us, had 1 Corinthians 13 read at your wedding. On that special day, we have no doubts that we can love the man or woman of our dreams who stands before us. Of course, we will be patient, always kind! We will never hold a grudge. We won’t insist on our own way, be irritable, or ever think of leaving when things get tough, because, well, things won’t ever be tough. We have love!
And then, eventually, real life sets in. Our humanness is revealed. And it gets hard to be kind. It gets hard not to hold a grudge because they keep doing the same things over and over and over. We get irritated and snippy. And when true disaster comes—when addiction rears its head, when trauma is unveiled, when our pasts follow us into our present—we think we never signed up for this. We start looking for an out. How could I possibly endure this, we think.
But this kind of love—1 Corinthians 13 kind of love—is agape love. It’s sacrificial love, the love of Jesus, the love that compelled him to die on a cross because of our human affliction—sin.
Both people have to make sacrifices for the marriage to thrive, to put aside themselves and their own agendas for the betterment of your relationship. Sometimes you’ll be the one sacrificing. Sometimes your spouse will sacrifice for you. But keeping in mind what will help the marriage will be helpful in determining who makes what sacrifice.
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