There are believed to be 4 primary parenting styles: uninvolved, permissive, authoritarian and authoritative.
Uninvolved- The uninvolved parent is not “present” or attentive to the needs of the children. They have no particular rhyme or reason for their actions. Instead, as long as the child is well cared for physically, they may not be fully aware of other emotional needs.
Permissive- The permissive parent takes a “child-led” approach. Parents in this category believed that “kids will be kids” and should have the freedom to make their own choices in every day and major matters.
Authoritative- The authoritative parent recognizes the need to create relationship with their children and rules that have consequences. Authoritative parents are aware clear authorities but are attentive to the emotional needs of the child.
Authoritarian- Authoritarian parents run their homes in a very strict manner. Their rules and regulations are supreme in the home and the children’s opinions are not validated in most scenarios. In many cases, this creates an environment of hostility, anger and fear as the children try their best to stay out of trouble.
Out of the four parenting styles, those who fall into the authoritarian category may find they deal with rebellion the most. This form of parenting often rears children who become deceptive to get out of trouble. Children may feel a sense of rejection as they struggle to live up to their parents’ ideals and values. This, coupled with religion, can be a breeding ground for children who come to despise their parents and what they stand for. When the Bible becomes the platform for the authoritarian parent, children can become harsh and legalistic or ultimately resent the Word altogether.
“When Paul told the Ephesians not to overcorrect their children and exasperate them (Ephesians 6:4), he was warning authoritarians not to raise children who would reject the faith altogether” (Chip Ingram- Focus On the Family).
When we take an honest self-evaluation of our parenting style, we can begin to take action steps to correct what may be drawing our children away from the Lord.
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