5 Solid Truths You Can Stand on during Divorce

5 Solid Truths You Can Stand on during Divorce

Abraham trusted God. He knew what God had promised him. God told him that he would be “the father of many nations,” even long after his wife’s childbearing years. Soon after, Sarah gave birth to a child whom I’m sure they loved dearly. Then God commanded Abraham to sacrifice his son, Isaac. It must have been incredibly difficult to take his son up to that place wondering what God had planned.

During my divorce, I felt a very similar feeling. The initial divorce request stated that I would have to give up my child, whom I had homeschooled for many years. On top of that, I had been a stay-at-home mom for most of my marriage, yet I was being asked to pay child support. Was God going to allow all of these things to happen?

I had to have faith and trust that God was working behind the scenes even when I wondered if I was going to lose everything. This is where the Old Testament Names of God helped to remind me of God’s promises. Even when it seemed like the final hour, God came through, providing, protecting, and especially comforting me through that season.

If you’re facing a difficult season during or after divorce, I want to encourage you today to hold tightly to God and His promises.

“For your kingdom is an everlasting kingdom. You rule throughout all generations. The Lord always keeps his promises; he is gracious in all he does.” – Psalm 145:13 NLT

Here are solid truths you can stand on during your divorce.

  • 1. The Lord is God Almighty

    Translated from Hebrew, El Shaddai. God’s name to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob was Shaddai.

    “When Abram was ninety-nine years old, the Lord appeared to him and said, ‘I am El-Shaddai—God Almighty. Serve me faithfully and live a blameless life.’” – Genesis 17:1

    Throughout my divorce process, I had to remind myself that God was still the Almighty God. He was still in control even when others tried to get their way or hurt me. God rules over the lawyers, the judges, and all people, even if they deny Him. God would not allow anything to happen unless it had a purpose in the Kingdom of God.

    We can argue that people have free will, but trusting that God is still on the thrown and still the Authority over all of this earth, meant I could leave all outcomes in His hands. And even if I lost my child, that God knew way better than me what was best for me and for him.

    God allowed Abraham to believe he was going to sacrifice his only true descendent. And through faith, Abraham could see God had a better plan. I believe God uses our circumstances, like divorce, in the same way.

    When we hold too tightly to people or things we learn through trials that we have to release it all to God and His mighty hand. When we release it to Him, there is comfort in knowing He controls what we cannot.

    “Be still, and know that I am God!” – Psalm 46:10

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  • 2. The Lord is There

    Translated from Hebrew, Jehovah-Shammah meaning, “Jehovah is there.” In the Bible, it often referred to the fact that God was there for the earthly land of Jerusalem. God did not abandon Jerusalem or His people. He brought about restoration in the Promised Land. And for us, He promises that there will be a New Jerusalem, where he will dwell with us.

    “And from that day the name of the city will be ‘The Lord Is There.’” – Ezekiel 48:35b

    People often ask, where is God when bad things happen? Some women lose their faith as they go through a divorce. They’re angry with God, for all that was lost, and wonder if He’s still there or cares. But just like in Old Testament times, when God’s children faced destruction and ruin, God was still there with His rescue plan. He’s still present today as we face evil and destruction in so many areas of our lives.

    In the end, as we read in Revelation 21, the battle between good and evil is already won. There is a New Jerusalem. The Lord God Almighty is there. He has always had a plan of restoration and for a better future. Both here on earth and in Heaven, God is there. We can find comfort and hope knowing one day we will see His face, and all our tears will be wiped away.

    “Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you.” – Deuteronomy 31:8

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  • 3. The Lord is My Shepherd

    Translated from Hebrew, Jehovah-Raah, literally means, “The Lord God exists as a shepherd.”

    “The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need. He lets me rest in green meadows; he leads me beside peaceful streams. He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name. Even when I walk through the darkest valley,I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me. Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me.” – Psalms 23:1-4

    Jesus shared a story (Luke 15), about the loving character of God, in the Parable of the Lost Sheep. I still remember back when I was that straying sheep living in the world. God chased after me and didn’t stop until I accepted Him as my Shepherd. Despite my sins, He loved and cared for me.

    I held tightly to that comforting love while going through my divorce. I wanted to reject God as much as I felt rejected by my husband. But time and time again God proved His loving care for me. He walked with me and guided me through that valley. He walks with me still today on the mountain. He watches over, protects and guides all of His sheep.

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  • 4. The Lord Will Provide

    Translated from Hebrew, Jehovah-Jireh. God provided a ram for Abraham’s burnt offering in the place of Isaac at just the right moment. This is when He was given the name, Provider.

    “So Abraham called that place The Lord Will Provide. And to this day it is said, ‘On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided.’” – Genesis 22:14

    Throughout the five years of my divorce journey, God has provided for my household over and over again. Often these experiences involve me worrying when I can’t pay a bill or when something has broken down and needs to be fixed or replaced. At the very last minute, before any harm has been done, God provides. This has built my faith in Him as our Provider probably much like it did Abraham.

    When anxiety tries to plague me, I just remind myself, of the protective care of our Jehovah-Jireh. He provides for all our needs. He has never let us down. And He has providence waiting for us. We just need to wait patiently with faith and expectation.

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  • 5. The Lord That Heals

    Translated from Hebrew, Jehovah-Rapha. After the Israelites escaped Egypt, and were walking in the wilderness, God “set before them the following decree as a standard to test their faithfulness to him.” (Exodus 15:25b)

    “He said, ‘If you will listen carefully to the voice of the Lord your God and do what is right in his sight, obeying his commands and keeping all his decrees, then I will not make you suffer any of the diseases I sent on the Egyptians; for I am the Lord who heals you.’” – Exodus 15:26

    God healed the water (as seen in Exodus 15) and He heals people. Jesus walked the earth healing the sick and the hurting. This same healing power is available today through the Holy Spirit. God wants to heal you after divorce. You just have to listen to His voice and have faith.

    Read:  20 Verses about Healing that Only God Can Give.

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    Jen Grice is a Christian Divorce Mentor and Empowerment Coach, author of the book, You Can Survive Divorce: Hope, Healing, and Encouragement for Your Journey, a speaker, and a single homeschooling mom. She writes full-time at JenGrice.com and empowers women to survive and heal after their unwanted divorce on her YouTube channel as well. Jen believes that through God's healing, grace, and redemption that all Christian women can survive... and even thrive, after divorce. Navigating this foreign territory we call divorce? Feeling alone? Start here!

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