"Ewwwwwww! Yuck!" is what our kids would say when their daddy would waltz into the kitchen and kiss me long and hard on my lips. They'd cover their eyes as they groaned, "Dad that'rs gross."
It’s been more than a decade since our kids moaned in disgust at our display of affection. But I remember like it was yesterday how Steve would come home from work, push past the sea of children clamoring for his attention to find mommy making dinner in the kitchen. While the kids acted as though they were offended that daddy’s first stop was to kiss momma’s lips that one regular encounter gave them a sense of security, even though they weren’t able to put into words how that routine made them feel safe.
Years later our eldest daughter, Meredith, who had gone away to college, discovered a valuable lesson. One day when she and her classmates were all talking about their families Meredith said, "Don't you just hate it when your parents kiss in front of you?"
When most of her friends replied that their parents didn't show much affection, Meredith realized the uniqueness of having parents who regularly displayed their love toward one another.
When we inquired how this "uniqueness" made Meredith feel her response was, "You guys weren't really inappropriate. Although we always acted like it grossed us out, it made us feel safe...Like you guys were always gonna be together."
It's the little things that we do in front of our kids that often have the most powerful impact. As our four children grew up in our home, it was our prayer that God would help us train them how to have a marriage that would last a lifetime—a marriage without regrets.
As our kids matured, we came up with a sort of list of 10 things we wanted our children to understand about marriage. You can help your kids understand these too.
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