According to Noble Warriors, a ministry geared towards equipping men to walk with Christ and lead well, the number one temptation men face today is pornography, and with the added screen time at home and more unscripted time available, it can be even greater.
It is devastating for a wife to imagine her husband struggling in this way, and there is no easy answer. This issue emphasizes the cruciality of men creating authentic relationships with other godly men. As difficult as it is, we need to create the space for our husbands to talk, recognize sin, and seek accountability and connection with other men.
Mike Young, Executive Director of Noble Warriors, says the number two struggle men face is anger. Often anger is just the outward manifestation of inward stress or fear, and according to Young, it’s often considered the only “masculine” way to deal with feelings. When Good Men Get Angry talks about the core of anger and biblical strategies to handle it. Try to understand the root of the issue, and use an extra measure of grace with each other. We all need it during this crisis.
It’s ok to recognize the wonkiness of life right now. Call it what it is—bizarre. There’s no one right way for your husband to deal with pressures and concerns; everyone handles emotions differently. As wives, we don’t always hear the inside concerns our man is carrying, but he may still be silently struggling. Assure him that your trust is in the Lord. Even with the unknowns, the knowns don’t change. You are one family unit, and you are in this together (Genesis 2:24). You can learn to understand and support one another in any crisis, even right now. Our hope is in the Supplier, not the supply. He knows our needs better than we do, and He will supply your needs according to His riches in glory (Philippians 4:19).
Hollie Gilman blogs about Faith and Family at HollieGilman.com. She has spent the last 21 years momming, homeschooling her 3 almost-grown-and-flown children, and working with her husband of 24 years. Now she enjoys writing and her new life in the country (being a pretend farmer) just outside her hometown of Richmond, VA.