5. Take financial classes.
According to biblical financial expert, Dave Ramsey, money causes the most fights in marriages. We each come into the relationship with different ideas regarding how to handle our finances and few of us have learned to manage them well. These differences can create a great deal of stress, which only multiplies when debt is involved.
When my husband and I were struggling relationally, our finances were a mess as well. We argued about who spent what, worried about rising credit card balances, and blamed each other for our inability to manage money. This created ongoing conflict and distrust. But then we took biblical financial classes where we learned not only how to budget but also how to communicate and work together in a previously contentious area.
Had we learned these tools earlier, we could’ve saved ourselves a great deal of frustration and money spent on interest.
Most, if not all, of us begin our relationships with high hopes and expectations. We envision years of happily-ever-after, of intimate and lazy Saturday mornings and peaceful walks in the park. These dreams are God-given and can be God-led, if we surrender to Him and seek His will. He longs to bring husbands’ and wives’ hearts together, to form one deeply connected and interdependent union—a place where trust and transparency thrive.
We experience this unshakable, thriving love as we focus on growth rather than solutions, develop our conflict-resolution skills, anchor our relationships in prayer, cultivate mentoring relationships, and learn to manage and discuss our finances well.
Jennifer Slattery is a writer and speaker who’s addressed women’s groups, church groups, Bible studies, and writers across the nation. She’s the author of Restoring Her Faithand numerous other titles and maintains a devotional blog at JenniferSlatteryLivesOutLoud.com. As the founder of Wholly Loved Ministries, she and her team love to help women discover, embrace, and live out who they are in Christ. Visit her online to find out more about her speaking or to book her for your next women’s event, and sign up for her free quarterly newsletter HEREto learn of her future appearances, projects, and releases.
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