I was one of those women who felt like everything was taken away from her. We had just sold our family home and relocated 50 miles away to a new town where I knew no one – all for my husband’s career. When we divorced, he had an established life here, but I had only our children who were still willing to talk to me.
Many divorcing women face not only the loss of their husband, but also their church, other people they consider family, their home, and their sense of community. And in many cases like mine, divorce means we even lose our children. Experiencing all this loss can make a woman feel very alone in this world, especially while trying to walk through a divorce and to, somehow, build another life.
Now, six years later, I wouldn’t say that I have completely integrated into my community, but I have made some friends and rebuilt my life after divorce. I found a support group of divorced women and got to know a few of the other local farmers. I like my doctors and the places I go to exercise. Occasionally, someone will even recognize me and say hello.
These all may seem like simple things, but they are precious to someone who knows what it is to feel alone. And it took a lot of work on my part to get to this point of feeling that I have a supportive community.
If you’re going through a divorce (or are just lonely where you are), here are six things that I learned over the past six years that can help you find your supportive community.
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