Red balloons, teddy bears and endless aisles of chocolates usher in Valentine’s Day before we ever see the month of February. Like clockwork, our favorite stores tee up the gaudy decorations to take center stage on the showroom floors. Without effort, our minds are escorted to thoughts of love, romance and chivalry.
Where we were previously focused on our New Year's resolutions, we now find ourselves thinking about how we will spend Valentine’s Day. Will it be another year alone? Will our husbands be romantic this year, or will we spend Valentine’s Day disappointed?
Sometimes, our romanticized view of Cupid’s holiday simply may not measure up to our ideals. Whether married or single we may find ourselves wanting to stay in bed and gorge on candy while binge-watching several hours of Netflix. After all, this day can be salt poured into an already open and unhealed wound, depending on the condition of our relationships or lack thereof.
Resulting from failed marriages, seemingly endless years of singleness, and painful breakups, we sometimes accumulate unwanted baggage as it relates to Valentine’s Day. Thus, this holiday can become a reminder of all that has gone wrong in our love life. Instead of Valentine’s Day being a day we eagerly want to celebrate, it may become one we simply tolerate and muddle through.
The truth is, it doesn’t have to be. Every woman who has given up on Valentine’s Day can reclaim it. She can look forward to this day with anticipation instead of dread and discouragement. She can discover a new sentiment for this holiday, but it will require a change in her perspective. If you're standing at the intersection of ideals and reality, below are 4 truths that will help you have a balanced perspective on Valentine’s Day.
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