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10 Questions I Would Ask Jesus Over A Cup of Coffee

Vivian Bricker

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Published: May 26, 2022
10 Questions I Would Ask Jesus Over A Cup of Coffee

I think most people would enjoy talking with Jesus over a cup of coffee. In our modern-day, talking over a cup of coffee is a great way to know more about a person and connect on a deeper, more personal level. 

I thought I would share ten questions I would ask Jesus over a cup of coffee. I highly encourage you to think of some questions you would ask Jesus if the two of you were at the local cafe. Keep these questions in a safe place where you can reflect on them as time goes by. 

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1. Why Did My Mom Have to Die? 

The first question I would ask Jesus would be deeply personal. I would ask him why my mom had to die. My mom passed away when I was eighteen, and I often wonder why my mom had to die so young. It is hard to cope with the death of a loved one, especially when you don’t understand why they had to die. Over the past several years, I have had much time to think over this question, but I will never truly know the answer until I speak with Jesus face-to-face. 

Some answers I have thought for myself include the fact that it brought me to know Jesus and that it helped me lean on God rather than a human being. Maybe in your own life, you have asked this same question. Why did my loved one have to die? It is a hard question to answer, but as we wait on Jesus' answer, He is patient and long-suffering in our wondering. 

2. Why Do I Have to Endure So Much Suffering?

A second question I would ask Jesus over a cup of coffee is why do I have to endure so much suffering? I’m sure most people would ask this question. Sufferings have been around ever since the fall, and nobody is immune to them. In my own life, I have experienced much suffering, but it is nothing compared to the suffering Jesus endured for us on the cross. 

Enduring the death of loved ones, losing friends, family issues, mental health battles, and physical health battles have left me feeling weary and wondering “why?” While I know our suffering is never for nothing, it is hard to endure so much suffering in our present life without knowing why we have to go through the difficult seasons. While having a cup of coffee with Jesus, I think asking Jesus why we have to endure so much suffering is an understsandable question. 

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3. What Was The Hardest Part Of Dying For The Sins Of The World?

A third question I would ask Jesus over a cup of coffee is what was the hardest part of dying for the sins of the world? The death Jesus endured on the cross was unlike anything else anyone has ever experienced in all of history. The flogging, the tears in His skin, the vast amount of blood loss, the crown of thorns on His head, the separation from the Father, and the nail marks in His hands and feet all attest to the pain Jesus endured for us. 

It would be a real privilege to know what was the hardest part for the King of kings to endure on the cross for us. While the physical pain would have been excruciating, we do not know how much emotional and spiritual anguish Jesus would have felt during His final hours on earth. 

4. Why Do You Love Mankind Even Though We Disobey You?

A fourth question I would ask Jesus would be why does He love mankind even though we disobey Him? This is a heavy question, but I would like to know the answer. Throughout the beginning of the human race, we have been disobeying God. Even through our disobedience, Jesus still loves us. 

As a human being, this is hard to fathom. When someone doesn’t listen to me or they are mean to me, it’s hard for me to love them. It is amazing from my human standpoint that Jesus would love mankind even though we continue to dishonor Him. All human beings have disobeyed Jesus at some point, yet He still loves us with an unshakable. I believe this question can only be revealed in a face-to-face meeting with Christ. 

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5. How Can You Forgive So Easily? 

A fifth question I would ask Jesus over a cup of coffee would be how can you forgive so easily? I know the obvious answer is because Jesus loves us, but from my human standpoint, it’s hard to forgive somebody just because you love them—when they haven't asked for forgiveness or decided to change the way they treat you. My loved ones have wronged me on many occasions and it is not easy for me to forgive them even though I love them. 

I believe this question is one that only Jesus would be able to answer. Jesus’ love is greater than anything else, which is why He can forgive us, but still, it is a hard question for me. 

6. How Can I Serve You Better?

A sixth question I would ask Jesus would be how can I serve you better? Basic concepts of serving Jesus include sharing the Gospel, extending kindness, and extending love, but I would ask Jesus how I can serve Him better in a way that brings Him glory. I know in my daily life, I can easily become wrapped up in the everyday anxieties and responsibilities of routine that I forget to serve Him in what I do. 

This year, I’ve been trying to take the incentive to focus on better serving Jesus in my daily life, yet I would still want to ask Jesus how I could serve Him better. I feel it would be helpful to me personally if I was told directly what I should do.

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7. Why Are People So Mean?

Another question I would ask Jesus over a cup of coffee would be why are some people so mean? I know ever since the fall of man, sin has entered the world and due to sin, there are mean people. However, I would like to know why they have to be so mean? All humans are made in the image of God, so why do some people act so mean to others? We have all had our fair share of mean people in our lives, just as we've all had our fair share of hard times that could have made us cold, bitter, and mean. 

But if each of us has the capacity to choose kindness and goodness—despite our past experiences, traumas, or hard seasons— I would like to know what separates one's willingness to choose kindness and another to choose meanness, especially in the Christian community. Why must they be so mean to others? I feel if we knew why a person was so mean, we could help them. 

8. What Will Heaven Be Like?

An eighth question I would ask Jesus would be what will heaven be like? The Bible tells us some details of heaven, and we know it will be glorious, yet I would like to know more about heaven. Maybe you have had similar questions about heaven that you would like to ask Jesus. I have heard many different theories about heaven in undergrad and grad school theology studies, as well as many different ideas from friends, but I would like to ask Jesus for myself what heaven is like. 

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9. Why Do I Feel So Alone? 

A ninth question I would ask Jesus over a cup of coffee would be why do I feel so alone? I know that Jesus is always with me, but why do I feel so alone? Have you ever experienced this same feeling of loneliness? You know God is with you, yet you still feel alone. I would ask Jesus this question because it often lingers in my mind. I’m constantly surrounded by family members, but I still feel alone. 

I believe this is a common feeling we experience throughout our lives. Even though we do know Christ as our Savior and Lord, we can feel like the black sheep of the family, the outcast within the friend group, or the girl who's forever single. Over a cup of coffee, I would like to ask Jesus why we feel so alone. 

10. Are You Disappointed in Me?

A tenth question I would ask Jesus would be are you disappointed in me? This is a thought I struggle with on a daily basis. I constantly fear Jesus is disappointed in me. I would ask Jesus this question over a cup of coffee, yet I would still be afraid of His answer. I know Jesus loves me just like He loves everyone, yet I am always afraid He is disappointed in me. Maybe you have struggled with this same question and concern. Talking with Jesus over a cup of coffee sounds like a wonderful experience, and I eagerly await the day when I have the privilege to talk with Him face-to-face to ask these questions.

Despite the difficult questions, we can cling to two promises: 

1. God's thoughts far extend ours.

Isaiah 55:8-9: "'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,' declares the LORD. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.'"

2. God's thoughts and actions are always for our good.

Romans 8:28: "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."


Vivian Bricker loves Jesus, studying the Word of God, and helping others in their walk with Christ. She has earned a Bachelor of Arts and Master's degree in Christian Ministry with a deep academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she is not writing, she is embarking on other adventures.

Originally published Thursday, 26 May 2022.

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