Hoping your spouse or boyfriend knows exactly what you’re thinking, feeling, and needing is unfortunately unrealistic. Be upfront and clear about what you need or what you’re thinking, and give him a chance to respond accordingly.
Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. - Colossians 4:6
2. Comparing Him to Other Men
Nothing good comes from comparison. God has made each of us uniquely, and wears away what God has called "good." Be careful of comparing him to other men in your family, or past relationships. You wouldn't want him to do the same to you. Spend more time noticing and praising God for the qualities that make him who he is.
For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. For each will have to bear his own load. – Galatians 6:3-5
3. Trying to Change Him
Trying to change anyone, especially your significant other, is a great way to frustrate a relationship. When you make a choice to be with someone, that will also include choosing to be with their weaknesses, funny quirks, or bad habits. Don't enter a relationship in the hopes of changing him. Focus on what is good and ask God to soften your heart toward the things you wish you could change.
So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. – Matthew 7:12
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