As a teen and young woman, I was never nervous around the opposite sex. In high school, I hardly dated–only having one boyfriend. I was the type to be friendly with most everyone, both boys and girls. I would hitch a ride home with a neighbor boy and never think twice about it. I didn’t worry if anyone saw me or thought bad of me for being alone with him, because there was never anything more to it than just a friendship or a way to get home faster.
Oh, how times have changed!
In my early 20’s I became a Christian, and shortly after that, I was getting married. During my divorce several years ago, I noticed some changes that happened in the world around me. Societal norms have made it hard for Christian men and women to communicate or even work together without being judged as inappropriate. And I noticed that my singleness worried married women, especially at church.
Maybe it’s just me, and I’ve just forgotten how to be friends with the opposite sex. I’ve tried to carry on normal conversations with men only for things to turn awkward. I don’t feel that I’m sending the wrong message, and I’m certainly not interested in any extra attention, but a few conversations left me scratching my head, reminding me that this is a different time.