5. She’ll never be good enough.
Bottom line, when we criticize women, we send a hidden message to our daughters that they’ll never be good enough.
My daughter returned from a friend’s house pretty discouraged. They were making friendship bracelets in the living room while her mom watched TV. The news covered a story on America’s First Lady. And the night went downhill from there.
Soon, my daughter’s friend got upset and asked if they could play in the yard instead. After a few minutes of utter silence my daughter asked her what was wrong. The poor girl replied she thought her mom couldn’t stand her.
I asked my daughter what would make her say that. “She’s one of the most powerful women in the country,” she explained. “And it’s not just her. Sometimes she’s badmouthing a gorgeous actress, teacher, or even her own friends. She feels like if her mom can find fault in them, she can easily find fault in her.”
It’s an unfortunate consequence many of us may be unaware of. Our daughters may not share our opinion or see the intricacies behind our criticisms. They just see us knocking each other down—no matter how beautiful, smart, accomplished or popular. In the end, we teach them with our actions that they won’t be immune to our harsh comments and judgement.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 says to “encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.” When we embrace each other despite our faults, we send a clear message to our girls that we have a heart for uplifting one another and that we’ll love them no matter what.
Here’s a secret: The average woman is trying her best. She’s giving it her all. You’ll find great beauty in her if you look past her short-comings. The next time you find yourself nit picking another lady, spend time alone with God. Remind yourself she is His daughter. Ask Him to grow you in love and appreciation for other women. For their sake and our daughters.’
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