Do you struggle to have a quiet time with God because you believe it has to look a certain way? Do you find yourself preoccupied with perfecting the ritual, rather than truly experiencing the peace of drawing near to the One we need to spend it with?
As a mom of three, with kids ranging from ages 6 to 12, I have a few years of experience battling to find my own quiet time. I’ve tried waking up early before the kids, staying up late after they are tucked in, and everything in between. The problem is when I based my own quiet time off of their schedules, I quickly became frustrated when a monkey wrench was thrown in. After becoming a parent, I learned how instantaneously routines can be thrown off-kilter. Sickness, a teething baby, a last-minute change of plans, etc. A lot of these things affected their waking and bedtimes, which in return affected me. I learned to stop basing when my quiet time would take place around such things.
If I didn’t get my quiet time done in the morning, I assumed I would make time for it when they went to bed. However, if you are like me, around five o’clock this was the furthest thing from my mind. Instead, I was thinking about all the things I was going to achieve when the kids went to bed. I was going to finish the load of laundry, clean out and organize that drawer and closet, finish that book I started reading months ago, fill out the baby book for the 6-year-old that I had yet to do. I literally thought I was going to do ALL the things.
What would actually happen when the kids went to bed a few hours later looked more like hitting a brick wall of exhaustion once I had changed into pajamas. So instead, I would find myself on the couch, TV remote in hand, because my brain wanted nothing more than to unwind with a show, and quiet time would get pushed to the next day’s mental to-do list.
What I learned over the years is that having quiet time will look different than the preconceived notion I once had. I needed to carve out time within the confines of motherhood, even if it felt mundane, knowing that the small morsels I could find here and there were better than nothing. No, they were precious. I realized it wasn’t audible silence I needed, but a quieting of the soul, an open heart, and intentionally seeking time with my creator.
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