The sun hasn't come up, and my coffee is just starting to hit my veins. "Mommy, can I have a snack?" "Mommy, will you put this dress on my doll?" "Mommy, can we paint today?" "Mommy, will you help me. I poo-pooed!" "Uh-oh! Mommy! I spilled the cereal!" "Mommy, she won't give me back my purse! I had it first!"
It's 6:30 in the morning, and through the whining, crying, and moaning of my two little girls I'm talking myself out of my own full-blown temper tantrum. Many mornings I have not been successful. The threats begin. The yelling starts. My heart starts to beat at a fast pace, and I feel out-of-control.
"Stop! Just stop! Don't you see that I'm moving as fast as I can! Who do you think I am? Wonder Woman? It's only 6:30 in the morning and already you're making demands, barking orders, whining, crying, complaining! Stop it!"
My kids don't even know who Wonder Woman is, but they know the self-control speech I gave them the day before isn't working for me either.
I never thought of myself as an angry person, but as it does with other parts of my life, motherhood reveals the deep, dark places that I didn't know were there.
I write this article not from a place of arrival or expertise, but through a humbled place of, "I need help." Writing it has helped me think through what I need to remember as I deal with anger in motherhood.
Here are 10 tips that have helped me:
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