Someone cuts me off on the highway and my immediate reaction is unworthy of social media sharing. If someone acts contrary to what I think is right or what I want them to do, words may fly out of my mouth which I immediately regret. Or I stew inside wondering why they would do such a thing.
If you’re anything like me, a Christian who wants to live well, you might feel shame and embarrassment when you don’t act well. Especially, when it has to do with anger.
When anger controls us, we might feel condemned for what we said or did. We might justify our actions, so we look better on the outside than we feel on the inside. We might pretend our reactions never happened, or we ruminate over the fact that it did. If we believe it’s never OK to be angry, we will try to manage anger in our own strength. It doesn’t work. It just turns inward, and the result is still harmful.
No one wants to be an angry person. Yet, many of us deal with anger whether it’s expressed in obvious ways or shoved aside and hidden. Anger, like all emotions, in and of itself, is not sin. Jesus was angry for the right reasons and expressed his anger perfectly. David and others also expressed anger in healthy ways. Anger identifies something is wrong, whether by our standards or God’s, and is designed to spark action towards restoration.
Instead of living under the weight of condemnation or continuing in sinful patterns by minimizing and justifying our actions, consider anger as a cue to get proactive in emotional health and spiritual growth. Let anger bring awareness to something God wants to do in and through you. Let anger become an instrument towards healing rather than destruction.
Here are 10 ways to proactively deal with anger before it controls you.
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