Transformation Garden - Jan. 18, 2010



Healed - to restore soundness.  To set right.

Where have I searched for love?

Did I find the love I was looking for?

"I have loved you with an everlasting love; 
I have drawn you with living-kindness. 
I will build you up again and you will be rebuilt." 
Jeremiah 31: 3, New International Version


From the moment we are born, we begin to create images in our minds. Visual pictures which are traced like lines in the sand.  Often it is these snapshots that mold the expectations we form about the events and people we encounter.  As these images become more deeply embedded they form memories that may last a lifetime.         

What makes these pictures unique is that they are brushed onto the canvas of our lives from a palette that is colored by our own individual experiences.

Of all the images created by our personal history - none is more vivid than our vision of what love is all about.  Especially the ideal love we hope will fill every corner of our lives.

As we mature we find that two of life's best teachers - time and experience - instruct us in the real-world classroom about what it means to be "loved."

We believe we know what love looks like.  We think we know how it feels so we go out and try to get that "it" that makes us feel "good."  And that "it" for many women is really a "him."

Even before our search begins, we try everything we can to make ourselves more desirable.  We paint our outside, starve our inside, and have surgery on what's left.  And if these measures don't work the way we want, we try even harder.  Because the first thought that hits us when we don't find the love we are so desperately seeking is that there must be something wrong with "me."

"I'm not pretty enough.  I'm not smart enough.  I don't have enough money to land in the arms of the person who is the solution to my longing," we say to ourselves.

Let's face it.  Most of us are experts at blaming our own weakness for the lack of love we experience in our lives.  Then one day, we become so brittle from sapping our strength chasing down our love solution - we break into a million pieces.  A crumpled heap of rubble. Broken beyond repair we hobble through life, crippled from the pain caused by rejection and loss.

Healing What's Broken

So how does a broken life get mended? Can what's fractured be healed?

Just like it takes time for a broken bone to heal - so it is with the broken places in your life and mine.  Sometimes a physician will have to take drastic action to make certain that splintered bones are able to grow together and form a bond of strength.  The same is true in our lives.  Change and healing don't happen overnight but gradually with the bandages of caring and love - we can find our lives transformed.

But the only way to mend what's broken is to have someone give you a new picture of love and it can't be just any person chosen at random.  It takes someone special.  A person who knows you better than anyone else. Someone whose experienced hands will paint a new image that portrays the beauty that is revealed in your life when time, nourishment, and faith heal what's broken.

Over the next few weeks, we will take a look at three characteristics of women who have experienced healing and transformation in the broken areas of their lives.  We will explore what it means to be healed…to be whole…and finally to become invincible.

In the beautiful words of the Psalmist David, "He heals the heartbroken and bandages their wounds," Psalm 147: 3, The Message.  May this healing power fill your life today.


"Heal me, O Lord, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise." 
Jeremiah 17: 14, N.I.V.

"Break the webs I have woven, seek out all my fears until you find not one. You are my beloved for ever and ever; all that is broken within me will be made whole." 
Psalms For Praying 
Nan C. Merrill 

Your friend, 
Dorothy Valcàrcel, Author 
When A Woman Meets Jesus

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