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Understanding our Roles as Biblical Women

Originally published Wednesday, 17 October 2012.

I take my role as a Biblical woman very seriously. I know that the Lord has a plan for my life.

Currently, my primary role is as wife to my husband Jason and future Mommy to the twins preparing to make their way into this world in December.

I am a homemaker. A wife. A mother-to-be. A cook. A cleaner. And perfectly where God wants me to be.

Do you know how I know this? God told me so in His word. He has left instructions for how He wants us to live. We just have to listen!

And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. ~Titus 2:4-5

God instructs us that we are to love our husbands. We are to love our children! We are to be self-controlled, which means to constantly be striving again sin in our lives and to be pure.

He wants us to be working at home. I know being a stay at home wife and mother is HARD work. It takes constant diligence and work. He instructs us to be kind to our family and to others. This also can sometimes feel like a full time job!

And we are to be submissive to our husbands. Plain and simple he has laid this out in His word.

Just from these two simple verses we can glean all of that. Other Bible verses such as 1 Peter 3:1-4,  and 1 Timothy 2:9-10 can help us to further understand our roles.

But we will never know what our Biblical roles are as women if we don’t STUDY! There are some excellent Biblical resources out there to help us understand our roles.

5 Resources to Help Understand Our Roles

1) The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace

This is hands down, my favorite book on Biblical womanhood. I have read it through twice and plan to do so many more times in my life.

It walks you through verse by verse on what it means to be a Biblical wife, mother, and sister in Christ. Peace gives so many real life examples and it is so easy to learn from her humble writing.

An excellent companion guide was also written for men and my husband and I HIGHLY recommend it: The Exemplary Husband.

2) Radical Womanhood: Feminine Faith in a Feminist World by Carolyn McCulley

McCulley writes from a the perspective of one who was caught up in the Feminist world for many years. She shares her experiences and her thoughts on Radical Womanhood within a Feminist world.

She presents many of the dangerous feminist ideas and thinking that have crept into our church today and taken hold of women’s hearts. A wonderful study on what it really means to be a Biblical woman!

3) Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother by Carolyn Mahaney

Mahaney takes 7 virtues found in Titus 2 and applies them to our lives and wives, mothers, and women of God. She is so humble with real experiences in her life.

She is open and honest about the reality of having to ask for help when you have little kids. She presents the Titus 2 model in a way that we can really identify with and grow towards.


4) Disciplines of a Godly Woman by Barbara Hughes

My sister’s and I are currently going through this book together. It’s a wonderful general overview of our lives as Godly women. It has sections on submission and joyfully serving. I highly recommend this study for women of any age, regardless of if they are married or not.

They also have a companion guide: Disciples of a Godly Man and a family study: Disciplines of a Godly Family.

5) True Woman 101: Divine Design: An Eight-Week Study on Biblical Womanhood by Mary Kassian and Nancy Leigh Demsoss

I have not personally gone through this study yet, although I plan on doing it soon! But I highly respect both Kassian and Demoss. Their perspective on Biblical womanhood is rock solid Biblical.

Intentional By Grace is currently going through the study on their blog. Hope over and catch up in time for the second half of the study!

Of course, none of this takes the place of actual Scripture. Those study tools and Bible studies can help us to better understand the Bible, but they should never take the place of actual study and memorization of His word.

If we want to truly understand what the Lord has to say about our roles as Biblical Women, then we need to head to His word. We need to intentionally study what His word has to say on the subject and hide it in our hearts.

If we have daughters, we are to teach them what it means to be Biblical women. If we have sons, we must instruct them on what to look for in future wives. We must also instruct our own hearts on how to behave and think.

Memorizing God’s word on what it means to be Biblical women is vital! When our sons and daughters ask us about the Biblical role of women, will you know what to tell them?

Is is written on your heart in a way that your daily life spells out what a Biblical woman is? I know I need to work on this area and have God’s work close to my heart.

I decided to take up the challenge to memorize God’s word in this area. The Lord has already greatly helped me to battle anxiety through memorizing His word. Now I am deciding to hide His word in my heart concerning what it means to be a Biblical woman.

I am currently memorizing:

  • 1 Timothy 2:9-10
  • Colossians 3:18-24
  • Proverbs 19:14
  • Proverbs 18:22
  • Ephesians 5:22-24
  • 1 Peter 3:1-4
  • Titus 2:3-5
  • Proverbs 21:9,19

Have you used Bible memorization to help you better understand your role as a Biblical woman or help deal with anxiety? Share what you have memorized.