April Motl is a pastor’s wife who loves to laugh, loves her man, loves to talk on the phone entirely too long and most of all, loves her Lord. Collaborating with the efforts of her husband Eric, the two of them share a ministry dedicated to bringing God’s Word into the everyday lives of married couples, men and women. April has been privileged through her own church and ministry outside her local body to share God's Word with women ranging in ages and stages, across denominations, and walks of life. April is a graduate from Southern California Seminary and has written for Just Between Us Magazine, Dayspring's (In)courage, and The Secret Place and also writes regularly for crosswalk.com, iBelieve.com and Women's Ministry Tools. For more information, visit Motl Ministries at: www.MotlMinistries.com
My husband is better than me at knowing when one or both of us needs a get-away. It’s something I’m learning to grow in (after all, wives and moms are instructed to “look well” to the ways/needs of their household). But it’s usually him who says, “C’mon! Let’s chuck the to-do list and get out of here!” My response used to be a list of “But what about this, what about that.” He would tell me, “We just have to steal the time.” And over the years, I’ve learned he’s right. You just have to steal away with each other. The needs in the schedule won’t stop, the responsibilities won’t finish, and there never seems to be a “good” time to leave the real world behind.
When Eric and I do make a break for it, we often head out to the mountains. So I can relate to Solomon and his bride heading for the countryside. For us, there’s nothing more refreshing than a great hike out in the mountainy air, a campfire under a blanket of stars, and the beautiful symphony of nature. I love photography and my man sweetly endures many hours of photo “hunting.” Saturating my eyes and mind in God’s majestic creation always reminds me how big He is and how small I am... and how truly small all those stresses back home are too. The long drive is also good for us. We talk through things we haven’t been able to address in the busyness of life. There’s no expectation to “get anything done” when you’re driving, so it helps us feel more free to dive into conversations without agenda, but that lead to quality connection. The drive helps to unwind us. Getting away allows us to reconnect and get life in better perspective.
Whether your favorite get-away is the mountains or something more urbanite, love thrives when it’s given boost of attention. Maybe you’d love a get-away, but the expense of it all is too much. Turn your living room or patio into your haven for the night. Regardless of where you find yourself, you can create oasis moments for you and your honey to reconnect. Here’s a few ideas:
I hope you and your sweetheart can steal away and that when you do, you find meaningful and needed connection that will fuel your marriage.