April Motl is a pastor’s wife who loves to laugh, loves her man, loves to talk on the phone entirely too long and most of all, loves her Lord. Collaborating with the efforts of her husband Eric, the two of them share a ministry dedicated to bringing God’s Word into the everyday lives of married couples, men and women. April has been privileged through her own church and ministry outside her local body to share God's Word with women ranging in ages and stages, across denominations, and walks of life. April is a graduate from Southern California Seminary and has written for Just Between Us Magazine, Dayspring's (In)courage, and The Secret Place and also writes regularly for crosswalk.com, iBelieve.com and Women's Ministry Tools. For more information, visit Motl Ministries at: www.MotlMinistries.com
“His” and “hers” might be embroidered on towels and printed on mugs, but in reality, once we get married, the baggage we carry in our hearts belongs to us together, as a couple. And the hard part is that sometimes one of us unknowingly plops our baggage down right on a sore spot in our spouse.
My husband and I both came from troubled childhoods, and so our entire relationship we’ve been aware of how these issues could affect us as a couple. We’ve prayed. We’ve sought God’s truth and perspective. We’ve wrestled for faith and trust in His sovereignty over our lives. And over the years, we’ve seen the Lord’s hand working in our marriage more than our baggage.
While we thank the Lord and give Him all the credit for all the marital joy we’ve shared, there’s been seasons when our baggage weighed a bit more on our hearts than we would wish. And there’s been times when our baggage bumped right into sore places in each other.
Here’s a few things we’ve learned from those painful experiences:
Lastly, don't allow the baggage to define who you are as an individual or as a couple. You are defined by your Maker alone! No one and no circumstance gets that honor except your Lord! In case you need some reminders about how God sees you, click here, here, and here.
We know this marriage road can be hard. We are praying that you would be refreshed in your love for one another, but if there is a specific way we can pray for you, email us at info(at)motlministries(dot)com. We would be honored to pray for you!