Let’s be real: cheating is not limited simply to acts of physical infidelity with another human being. For example, using pornography, developing an intense emotional relationship with another person in your workplace, and connecting with people inappropriately online are all examples of cheating. For years, I told myself, “Well, at least he’s not sleeping with other women” when my husband engaged in pornography. But the truth is, that rationalization never lessened the pain I felt because any type of infidelity is hurtful and harmful, both to you and your relationship.
How do you cope with the devastating reality of infidelity and the loss of what you thought was your safest, most trusted relationship? What follows are 6 ideas to help you move toward healing from this trauma.
Some of these steps toward healing may vary slightly depending on if you choose to continue a relationship with your spouse. Also note: there isn’t a true order to these steps even though they are listed numerically. Everyone’s journey is different and no journey to healing from trauma is linear or accomplished in specific time frames. The most important thing is to start somewhere.
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