I was never part of the popular group at school, but I also never had a desire to be part of a popular group. I was content with my group of friends and our experiences. As an individual, I’ve always had a need to get to know people – to understand what makes them tick and to know their story. But whether I was part of a group or not, I liked knowing that I belonged, that I fit in, even if I was a loner.
Because the church is a welcoming place for everyone, we often assume that everyone will be hospitable, receptive and open forming one big happy family. Cliques are only called cliques when their sole intent is to exclude others -- and many of the cliques that exist today within the church form along cultural lines.
Moving across the country and going through the process of finding a new church home refined my thoughts on dealing with isolation caused by cliques within a church. If groups naturally form because of similar interests, hopefully, that group is always open for growth or multiplication. But, in the event there are cliques at your church, here are 10 ways to stop cliques from ruining your church from the organization’s, the insider’s and the outsider’s viewpoint.