10 Types of Baggage Christian Moms Shouldn't Carry

Emmanuel Abimbola

Emmanuel Abimbola

Contributing Writer
Updated Jan 30, 2024
10 Types of Baggage Christian Moms Shouldn't Carry

In the journey of motherhood, the baggage of the past may weigh heavily on the shoulders: the guilt over perceived shortcomings, the worry about the uncertainties ahead, and the burden of unmet expectations. Yet, the essence of Christian living beckons mothers to release these burdens, for the Lord promises to carry our loads (Psalm 55:22).

Starting each day with a clean slate is a spiritual act of surrender, letting go of past mistakes, and trusting in God's grace to pave the way for a brighter future. As a Christian mom, it's a reminder that His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22–23), offering a chance for redemption and restoration.

Starting afresh doesn't mean dismissing the lessons learned but rather carrying the wisdom gained forward. It's an acknowledgment that, through Christ, old things have passed away and all things have become new (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Let's discover 10 types of baggage Christian moms should no longer carry:

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1. Anger, Resentment, and Unforgiveness

It's crucial to identify and shed certain burdens that can hinder the path of spiritual growth and familial harmony. Among these burdens, anger, resentment, and unforgiveness stand as formidable obstacles, urging mothers to heed the wisdom embedded in Colossians 3:13, "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

The weight of unresolved anger can cast shadows over a household, affecting not only the individual harboring it but also reverberating through family dynamics. Recognizing the detrimental impact of anger is the first step toward liberation. Anger disrupts peace, hinders effective communication, and creates an atmosphere devoid of the love and joy God intends for Christian families.

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2. Doubt and Fear

Doubt and fear are formidable baggage that must be left behind. As mothers, you might grapple with common fears related to your children's future, your capabilities, or the uncertainties of life. Acknowledging these fears is the first step toward liberation, and recognizing that God's promise to guide and protect extends to every facet of our lives is also crucial.

Rather than being overwhelmed with fear, strive to build your trust in God’s faithfulness. Mind you, having confidence in God's faithfulness involves a continuous reflection on His promises. Romans 8:28 serves as an anchor: "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." This reminder empowers you to face the unknown with assurance in God's unwavering love for you and your children.

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3. Comparison

Comparison, pervasive and insidious baggage, requires intentional release. Galatians 6:4 says, "Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone without comparing themselves to someone else."

The perilous trap of constantly comparing oneself to other moms is laden with detrimental consequences. It breeds discontentment, fosters insecurity, and undermines the unique qualities and strengths that each mother brings to her family.

Embracing one's unique journey as a Christian mother involves recognizing that God has crafted an individual purpose for each woman. Comparisons diminish the understanding of the intricate plan God has designed for one's life. Psalm 139:14 beautifully reinforces this truth: "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well."

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4. Guilt

The weight of believing you're not doing enough or striving for unattainable perfection can be heavy baggage that hinders spiritual growth and hampers the joy intended for the family.

In acknowledging the imperfections inherent in the human experience, you find solace and guidance in the reassuring words of 2 Corinthians 12:9: "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me."

This Scripture is a reminder that God's grace is not contingent upon our perfection but is magnified in our weaknesses and vulnerabilities. It's an invitation to cut yourselves some slack, embracing the reality that, as imperfect beings, you are recipients of a perfect and all-sufficient grace.

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5. Unrealistic Expectations

It's paramount to reevaluate and release the burden of unrealistic expectations. The pursuit of perfection, often fueled by societal pressures and personal standards, can weigh heavily on your shoulders, hindering the joy intended for the journey of motherhood. In recognizing this, it's vital to embrace the liberating truth in Psalm 62:5, "Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him."

God, in His infinite wisdom and grace, doesn't demand perfection from mothers. Instead, He desires their hearts—sincere, imperfect, and willing. The unrealistic expectations that mothers may place on themselves or feel pressured to meet can be reshaped through the lens of God's unfailing love and acceptance.

Adjusting your expectations becomes a transformative act, leading to a more joy-filled journey in motherhood. It involves letting go of the notion of perfection and embracing the reality of being a work in progress. Proverbs 16:9 reinforces this understanding: "In their hearts, humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps." It's an acknowledgment that while planning is essential, God is ultimately in control, and His plan is filled with grace for the imperfect moments.

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6. Self-neglect

Contrary to the misconception that prioritizing oneself is selfish, it's essential for maintaining overall well-being. Mark 6:31 says, "Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, 'Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

In this biblical passage, even Jesus, amid His ministry, acknowledged the need for rest and self-care. It serves as a powerful reminder that taking time to recharge is not only permissible but integral to sustaining one's physical, emotional, and spiritual health.

As mothers, you are often immersed in the responsibilities of nurturing your families, and in doing so, you may inadvertently neglect your own well-being. However, recognizing the importance of self-care is not an act of selfishness; rather, it's a recognition of one's inherent value and the need to replenish it to continue pouring into the lives of others.

You are encouraged to prioritize self-care without guilt. It's a journey toward recognizing that caring for oneself is not only permissible but also aligns with God's desire for His children to lead healthy and fulfilling lives.

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7. Negative Self-talk

It's crucial to address and discard the burden of negative self-talk, the tendency to engage in self-deprecating thoughts that undermine one's worth. In the journey of motherhood, it's essential to be kind to oneself and counter those negative thoughts with the truth of God's Word.

This verse serves as a powerful antidote to the destructive narrative of negative self-talk. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by the Creator of the universe. Each aspect of your being is intricately designed with purpose and intentionality.

By replacing negative self-talk with affirmations of God's truth, Christian mothers can cultivate a mindset rooted in self-compassion, acceptance, and gratitude.

I urge you to intentionally challenge and reshape negative thoughts with the truth of God's Word. This is not only an act of self-love but a reflection of the divine love that created them fearfully and wonderfully.

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8. Busyness over Presence

Amidst the demands of your daily schedules, it's essential to remember the profound importance of being present in the lives of your children and spouse. The Lord says in Psalm 46:10, "Be still and know that I am God."

As Christian mothers, you are reminded to slow down and savor the beautiful moments that unfold in the sanctuary of your homes. Busyness can inadvertently lead to moments of unintentional neglect. In the pursuit of various responsibilities, it's easy to overlook the quiet whispers of God and the subtle nuances of everyday life that weave the fabric of familial bonds.

By being present, you create an atmosphere where the love of God is felt, relationships flourish, and the home becomes a sanctuary of peace and joy. Embracing the stillness allows Christian mothers to not only connect with the divine but also to savor and cherish the beautiful moments of family life.

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9. Doubt in God's Plan

Mothers, address and release the burden of doubt in God's plan for your lives. Doubt can cast shadows on the intricate and purposeful path that God has laid out for you. Proverbs 3:5-6 provides a guiding light in navigating this aspect of faith: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

Doubt often emerges when faced with uncertainties or when life takes unexpected turns. It's essential to remember that God's perspective surpasses our limited understanding, and His plan unfolds according to His perfect timing. Trusting in the Lord involves surrendering doubts and leaning on His wisdom, recognizing that His ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:9).

As you navigate the unknowns and uncertainties, lean on the understanding of a loving and sovereign God. Embrace the journey with faith, knowing that even amid challenges, His plan is unfolding.

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10. Neglecting Prayer and Scripture

As a Christian mother, it is crucial to address and discard the burdens of prayerlessness and non-meditation on God's Word. These are not merely habits but vital components of a vibrant and flourishing spiritual life, contributing to your personal growth and the well-being of your family.

Prayer is the lifeline of a Christian. It's the channel through which you communicate with God, share your heart, and seek His guidance. Neglecting prayer can lead to a sense of spiritual emptiness and a disconnection from the divine source of strength and wisdom (Philippians 4:6-7).

Meditating on God's Word is akin to nourishing your soul with spiritual sustenance. It provides guidance, encouragement, and a deep understanding of God's character. Psalm 1:2-3 beautifully illustrates the benefits of meditating on God's Word: "But whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night? That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers."

Make a conscious commitment to prioritize prayer and meditation. Set aside dedicated time for communion with God through prayer, pouring out your heart, expressing gratitude, and seeking His will. Engage in regular meditation on Scripture, allowing the transformative power of God's Word to shape your thoughts, actions, and perspectives.

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Emmanuel Abimbola headshotEmmanuel Abimbola is a creative freelance writer, blogger, and web designer. He is a devout Christian with an uncompromising faith who hails from Ondo State in Nigeria, West Africa. As a lover of kids, Emmanuel runs a small elementary school in Arigidi, Nigeria.

Originally published Tuesday, 30 January 2024.