I sat across the table from my friend in the conference room of our church. She unzipped her purse. “Let me get a Kleenex,” she said with a big sigh. “I’m so frustrated; I think I’ll need it.”
The scenario she painted was painfully familiar to me. So, I listened with compassion.
“As the Sunday school teacher, you need to confront her and let her know how rude she’s being during class. I’m tired of her blasting us as we try to express our opinion…”
She continued and demanded I take matters seriously and either tell the woman to stop or to leave the class. Gulp.
I sighed deeply. “Let me talk to those members whom you said were offended by her.”
Such a delicate matter needed diligent prayers for God’s wisdom. And I searched his Word to find it.
I spoke to each woman who supposedly was a “victim” of this woman’s demeanor. And the conclusion was that none felt that way. On the contrary, they expressed compassion and understanding, knowing she needed help.
As weeks passed, the class continued, and I had conversations with the seemingly “bullish” woman. That’s when I learned she realized her weaknesses. She was aware of the negative effect she had on the class. I expressed understanding. Eventually, she changed churches, but left behind these 10 pitfalls we need to avoid: