10 Scriptures to Read When You Don’t Know Who You Are

Alisha Headley

iBelieve Contributing Writer
Updated Dec 21, 2022
10 Scriptures to Read When You Don’t Know Who You Are

I’ve always admired those who are confident in who they are as it took me years to obtain this same confidence. Those that know themselves are confident in what they stand for. They know all their likes and dislikes, what they are passionate about, and what sets them apart. They know and believe what God says about them to be truth.

But perhaps you are more like the rest of us who often feel more tossed and swayed with the wind of others’ opinions, views, or things they’ve said about you. You may feel more like a by-product of who they say you are versus who God says you are.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, “is my security and who I am built on God’s point of view or the world’s?”

Matthew 7:24-28 teaches us that those who build their lives on God’s words are like “a man who builds his house on a rock, and when the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock” (Matthew 7:25). The scripture goes on to say in Matthew 7:26-27, that it is the “foolish man who is the one who builds his house on the sand, and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.”

We need to ask ourselves if we are basing who we are on the solid rock of God’s word in Scripture or on the sinking sands of the world. Because as Scripture states, “great is the fall” for those who build their lives on the sand. If we don’t believe who we are in Christ and what He says about us, then it’s easy for us to make decisions on shaky ground, not secure.

When we don’t truly know who we are, we make decisions and live our lives on lies about who society says we are versus on the truth of God’s word. Let’s begin to walk in the truth of who we really are instead of the lies that keep us in the sinking sand.

Here are 10 Scriptures to read when you don’t know who you are:

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1. You Are Chosen

“You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you should go and bear fruit…” (John 15:16)

God chose us from the beginning. He chose us knowing we would fail him time and time again. He chose us knowing we would doubt Him, and at times choose others over Him. He appointed us to go and bear His fruit knowing that we were sinners. He will never stop choosing us even when we don’t always choose Him first for we are chosen by Him. The world will reject you and judge you, but God chooses you over and over again.

2. You Are Loved beyond Measure

“And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep His love is.” (Ephesians 3:18)

God’s love for you is immeasurable. It’s unfathomable, infinite, completely limitless. God’s love for us is greater than our greatest sin. The world may love you temporarily or for what you have to offer in that moment. It may love you for a season and forget you the next, but God’s love is never-ending.

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3. You Are Forgiven

“as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.” (Psalm 103:12)

No sin is too great, no life too far gone, for God to not forgive it. What a beautiful promise that no matter what we have done in this life, God’s forgiveness covers it all. He remembers it no more. We are to repent and ask for the forgiveness He freely offers. God is so gracious and loves us so much to forgive all our sins. The world will hold things against you, wanting you to feel shame and guilt, but God covers you in His forgiveness, removing it all.

4. You Are One of a Kind

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (Psalm 139)

God intentionally and purposefully created you to be only you. Every last thread was by His design, making you totally unique. There is no other you as you are one of a kind. The world will tell you that there is no room for you, and tell you that there are other people who are better than you, while God tells you, that you are one of a kind.

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5. You Are Treasured and Set Apart

“You have been set apart as holy to the Lord your God, and He has chosen you from all the nations of the earth to be his own special treasure.” (Deuteronomy 14:2)

You are a treasure in God’s eyes. He set you apart to be a light to others who do not yet know Him. He calls you special. Which means He cherishes you; He adores you, and He views you as His most treasured prize. The world will try to tell you that there is nothing special about you, and God doesn’t see you as any different than them, but God sees you His priceless treasure.

6. You Are a Part of God’s Inheritance

“In Him, also we have obtained an inheritance being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according the counsel of His will.” (Ephesians 1:11)

We are given an inheritance from God Himself. We are adopted into God’s royal family with all the rights, privileges, and inheritance of natural-born children. We are heirs to participate in the glory of Christ. How beautiful to know we are adopted into the most royal eternal family that exists. Let’s begin to walk in such royalty knowing that we are in our purpose if we walk according to His will for our lives. The world will try to tell you that you are nobody, but God sees you as someone who is part of His royal family.

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7. You Are a Blood-Bought Daughter

“Behold, what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God.” (1 John 3:1)

Hear me when I say this: God sent His very own son who left the perfection of heaven to come to a sin-filled world in flesh to die a brutal death on a cross. Christ came to die for our sins so that we can spend eternity with Him as His children. He loves us so much that He bought us at a high price through the death and blood of Jesus. While the world will love us temporarily, we are forever a child bought at a high price.

8. You Are Not Your Past – You Are Made New

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

You are not your past. In fact, in Christ, you are made new. You are a brand-new creation to Him when you decide to commit your life to Him, repenting of your past. We will still sin in this world because we live in a fallen world, but sin is no longer your master. When we gave our lives to the Lord, we died to sin and are now alive and new in Christ. You are finally free from the slavery of sin and death. The world will tell you that you are labeled by your past, but God will tell you that you are made new in Him.

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9. You Are a Masterpiece

“For we are God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, so we can do the things He planned for us long ago.” (Ephesians 2:10)

When an artists calls a work of art his masterpiece, he is proclaiming how every ounce of his skill and attention and heart has been poured into the creation. In the same way, just as God intentionally made you by design, with every stroke on purpose, you are His very own personal and final masterpiece. We were created in Him, by Him, so that we can accomplish all that He has planned for us. The world will tell you that you are just another person and are not created by design or purpose. But God’s truth says He sees you are His very own masterpiece.

10. You Are Enough because He Is

“And God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM…” (Exodus 3:14)

God asked Moses to lead His people out of Egyptian bondage. Moses told God he was the wrong man for the job. He believed the lie that he wasn’t brave enough, strong enough, smart enough, eloquent enough, charismatic enough, or confident enough to do the job God was asking him to do. Those areas where we are not enough, God says it’s ok, because “I AM.” The world will tell you that you are not skinny enough, smart enough, or good enough… but God says, you are enough because He is.

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Alisha Headley is a writer + speaker who has a desire to meet the everyday woman in her everyday life with biblical truth. Stepping into her true calling, she left the corporate world behind as a former-financial VP to love on her family as a stay-at-home wifey + dog mama, while also being able to pursue her passion as a writer. Healing from a chapter of life consumed with lies she once believed about herself, she is inspired to point women to Christ to experience the freedom + power to overcome those lies with the truth written in God’s word. In her free time, Alisha enjoys road trips around the country, working out so she can eat her favorite foods, and creatively styling her outfits with a craft for fashion. Alisha is a proud wifey and dog mama living in Scottsdale, Arizona.

You can follow her blog by visiting her website or connect with her on facebook + instagram.

Originally published Thursday, 17 December 2020.