Let me say this clearly: If your sex life has not been great, it does not give you or your spouse license to cheat. If one person in a marriage cheats they will be responsible before God for it. That being said, sex is a fun and productive way to protect your marriage, and is a renewing ritual for the covenant you made.
10. Do Marriage Maintenance
Date nights, anniversary trips, or yearly “tune-ups” with a biblical counselor can all be ways to keep your marriage healthy. Get comfortable with the question, “Are we okay?” Just like a car, marriages need regular tune-ups to make sure that you are united and growing. Put some work into making your marriage healthy and whole. Coming up with a list of questions that you regularly ask each other can help with this.
What has been your favorite thing about our marriage in the last six months/year?
What has been the most difficult thing about our marriage in the last six months/year?
Where would you appreciate more support from me?
Have you felt lonely recently?
In what area of our marriage would you like to see growth?
It may take time to get comfortable with asking each other these questions, but as they become a habit you will instinctively know when something is amiss and needs to be corrected. Your marriage was a gift from God, and it is worth protecting with all of your heart.
11. Keep your Eyes on Jesus
There is no greater protection we can have for our lives and relationships than that offered by taking refuge in the work of Christ and living according to his words.
The closer we are to him the more he refines our character and the more distasteful sin becomes. When we keep our eyes on Jesus our bodies are not as likely to wander.
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