“When is your date again?” I recently asked a church member. Giddy with excitement, he told me about his upcoming wedding in August and all the details they had to take care of. As we talked briefly, I remembered that time in my own life.
Eager to try on dresses and taste cake, I was blindsided by the indefinite postponement of my wedding day. In the midst of what should have been sheer exhilaration, I had to accept the reality that we were not ready to be married. That season in my life was difficult, embarrassing, and slow. But prioritizing the marriage over the wedding day was one of the greatest decisions I have ever made.
This is why I responded by asking, “Are you guys doing counseling?” My question was not void of excitement regarding the details of the day but rooted in concern for the marriage. I was aware of the temptation to focus on the day rather than life ever after. I had seen unresolved problems erode the marital bliss in my life and that of other couples who never saw it coming.
When planning a wedding, no one wants to consider the possibility of discord. But no marriage is exempt from difficulties. In fact, if you have spent any amount of time in a seminar, premarital counseling, or listening to a sermon series, you can probably name the three most common conflicts in marriage: sex, money, and communication.
Here are just a few suggestions on how to work through this marriage triple-threat.
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