I’ll admit; I enjoy being right. In fact, I’ve been known to deliver a strong three-point sermon to my husband just to prove it. But the pride of being right never brings the results I desire. Pride has no place in the body of believers. When resolving conflict, we need to resist jumping into defense-mode.
“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” (James 1:19)
Listening says to the other person that I value her and care what she has to say. It ushers in the gentleness we will need to move forward toward reconciliation. When I’m tempted to interrupt, this verse in James reminds me of an important lesson. My silence makes room for God to be heard. And wouldn’t we all rather listen to God’s voice over our own?
If I had chosen to listen to God’s voice regarding conflict with my friend, I feel certain things between us would be different today. Unfortunately, doing things my own way didn’t bring the outcome I had hoped for. Seeking out practical steps in Scripture to apply to our struggles takes time and effort, but our relationships are worth it.
Are you facing conflict with someone in your church body? Have you witnessed a disagreement between others at church? May these 5 healthy steps encourage you. Together we can rediscover our common purpose as we seek to resolve conflicts. One goal, one body, and one Heavenly Father. “This makes for harmony among the members, so that all the members care for each other... All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it.” (1 Corinthians 12:25, 27)
Kristine Brown is a communicator at heart, sharing insight with her readers in relatable ways. Her life experiences serve as a backdrop for her lessons that highlight God’s powerful Word and redemptive grace. She is the author of the book, Over It. Conquering Comparison to Live Out God’s Plan, and founder of the non-profit organization, More Than Yourself, Inc. Read Kristine’s weekly devotions at kristinebrown.net or connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.
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