4. Faith ties it all together.
Faith is evident in the three-cord strand of marriage: the unseen guest that provides hope. Faith allows you to believe the best for your marriage. But it starts with a faith found only in God. Each person exhibits faith in God first, which teaches us to have faith in each other.
Faith in God allows you to know that God sees it all—the good, the bad, and the ugly of your relationship—and He’s still there for you.
Faith allows you to know that you can bring it all to Him.
Faith provides boldness to approach His throne with grace and find help in your time of need (Hebrews 4:16).
Faith softens your heart.
Faith gives you new eyes to view your partnership and your marriage.
Faith strengthens your love.
When I started writing this article, I was irritated with my husband. It was something trivial, but it had been lingering for a while. We needed to communicate so that we both understood each other.
As is the case with most of these things, unhappiness was the indicator that we needed to address it. For us, sometimes it’s just a matter of taking the time to hear each other out. Other times we both need to step back and remind ourselves of what’s important.
When life is taking a toll in terms of jobs, finances, or other stressors, we’re not necessarily irritated with each other. But we take our frustrations out on each other.
Irritations don’t mean an end to a marriage; they’re an opportunity for growth and change. Even in marriage, the darkness of irritation, frustration, and angst reminds us of our commitment: “for better and for worse.”
Growth can take place in the dark if we make a resolution to love in spite of quirks, idiosyncrasies, or disagreements. For this reason, forgive often, listen more, laugh heartily, pay attention to each other, and invest in each other.
None of this happens successfully or consistently without God being the source and center of your relationship. The best way to grow with your spouse is to continue to grow with the Lord. As you spend time with Him and follow His directions, the result will be evident in your life and your marriage. We won’t perfect it, but it will become easier to love one another and grow together.
Nylse is a Christian wife and a mother of four who loves life and inspiring others. She likes to have fun but is very clear on who she is and Whose she is. A prolific thinker, she blogs to encourage others from a Christian perspective at www.lifenotesencouragement.com. She can be found online on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest.
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