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My husband and I will be celebrating nine years of marriage this September. In many ways, we still feel like babies in this thing we call “being united in love;” we’re still learning to become one. It has been what seems like both a long and short road to figure out what kind of marriage we have, what works for us, and what hasn’t worked for us.
I grew up hearing from pastors and their wives about the type of man I should look for, the boundaries one should have in dating, and the roles each spouse is supposed to take. I naively thought if we did all we had been taught to do, our marriage would turn out to be just like the ones the pastors and their wives had - a good, biblical marriage.
Instead, ours didn’t turn out to be like theirs at all. My husband was then and still is a chef, and I ended up being a pastor for the first 7 years of our marriage. Along the way, we’ve learned to surrender what we thought we knew about marriage.
If I knew then what I know now, here are 10 things I would’ve told myself about marriage before saying “I do”: