“Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord cares for me.” (Psalm 27:10)
In the dark moments where we feel hurt by our parents, God is ever-present and willing to hear from us. God is constantly available to us through prayer, whether uttered bedside from a kneeling position, in our minds throughout the day, or the words we utter out loud in the car. God always hears our prayers.
Prayer offers healing because this gives us an opportunity to vent our hurt and frustrations to the one who loves us most — God. As Scripture indicates, God has the power to heal us of our wounds (Jeremiah 17:14). When we reach out to God, we can request healing and then trust that God will bring that in time.
When we pray, we also free ourselves from dwelling on the hurtful impact of words. Instead of ruminating on what went wrong, praying to God gives us a new direction on what can go right (Proverbs 3:5-6). When parents hurt us, what are we to do? Thankfully, God gives us the proper guidelines on how to respond to offense, even when parents are the ones offending.
“And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.” (Ephesians 4:32)
Another way to heal is to offer forgiveness. The Bible mentions forgiveness a number of times, which in some verses points back to the fact that God offers forgiveness to us. If we see ourselves as sinners and God’s children, much like our parents, then forgiving them for their offenses will feel much more reasonable. Everyone has the potential to sin, thus, there is no reason why our parents would be excluded from that category.
Forgiveness does not mean pretending offense did not occur before. Instead, forgiving someone simply means no longer holding the offense against them in a way that is detrimental to the relationship. An example would be a child reminding a parent of a hurtful comment made years ago every time they come into contact. Forgiveness in this scenario could instead be the child not forgetting what the parent said, but also not rehashing old wounds.
If we don’t want God or others to remind us of past misdoings, then we should extend the same courtesy to other people.
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