Children are a gift. “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” (Psalm 127:3-5)
While we believe this, we also know the reality that motherhood is hard. The technical work of parenting—of diapering, wiping, disinfecting, and pureeing, of disciplining, grounding, and hearing the same sing-song cartoon play over and over—can be tiring, but the emotional and mental aspect of motherhood is much more exhausting.
A friend of mine with a newborn texted me and asked, “When do I stop worrying so incessantly over my child?” And I replied with a simple “you don’t.” From worrying about their health as newborns to fretting over their first time to drive a car, a mother’s concern for her child never goes away. Those mothering instincts God has given us are a blessing, but without proper guidance, they can easily turn us into our own worst enemy. Factor in the stress of social media, the constant comparison trap we moms find ourselves in, and shame and guilt start tapping us on the shoulder quick!
God didn’t intend for us to parent from that position. Rather, He equipped us with everything we need to shepherd our kids according to His Word. Kicking guilt and shame to the curb is one of the first steps to parenting well. Rather than focusing on our own inadequacies, we need to shift our gaze to our Heavenly Father and His sufficiency.
Here are 10 things every mother should stop feeling ashamed about:
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