The pressure of never-ending mombligations and unrealistic expectations is more intense and frequent than the amount of meals that can be cranked out in an Instant Pot! It seems the bar to achieve motherhood success has been raised higher and higher while the threshold of measuring success has gotten stronger and more competitive.
Is it just me or is it all too much? I love my children but I simply can’t do everything for them or be everything to them. But when I look at the mom next to me who all but lives at her child’s school because she spends so much time volunteering there, I’m afraid I’m failing as a mom or falling short of my mombligations.
While the world may have a bar set high of unattainable perfection (2 Corinthians 10:12), we can thank the Lord that our Father above does not. We will fall short because we are humans bent towards sin and unable to attain perfection this side of eternity, but we can have peace knowing God loved us enough to sacrifice His son for our shortcomings (Romans 5:8) and we are able to do good through His goodness rather than our own (2 Corinthians 3:5).
Lie No. 10: "I am just a mom."
Being a mom is such a gift, but if you’re not careful you can lose yourself. You can lose your identity when you believe you’re just a mom and without purpose.
You may be a mom, but you are so much more. You are God’s daughter, chosen and marked by His love (Matthew 3:17). You are set apart (Deuteronomy 14:2, Jeremiah 1:5, 1 Peter 2:9). You are God’s masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10).
In this world, you will go by many names and titles and will identify with many roles and descriptions. Whether you (or someone else) gives these names to you or if you choose to believe these names define who you are, there is only one name and one purpose that matters – HIS.
It doesn’t matter if you have one kid or ten kids, or if you’re a working mom, a stay-at-home mom, or a mom somewhere in between. All moms have struggles, capabilities, and inabilities that hinder their capacity to be perfect. That’s okay—you don’t need to be a perfect mom because you have a perfect heavenly Father. Through His perfect design you are made to be the perfect mom to your specific children. The lies you believe or hear from the world may tell you otherwise, but the truth is no one can be a better, more suitable mother to your children than YOU.
Christen Fox is a blogger for https://seekinggraceandgratitude.com, an online ministry that encourages Christian women to live purposeful, unfiltered lives that embrace human imperfection within God's perfect design. Christen resides in Grand Rapids, MI with her husband and five children. When not “momming,” you can find Christen at a local fitness class, curled up with a book, hosting small groups and other events, cooking in her kitchen or wandering around her happy place – the farmers market.
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