3. Community and Support
"Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up! Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
“Humble yourselves in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you” (James 4:10).
God did not create us to journey through life alone. When we are going through any kind of trial, we shouldn’t hesitate to accept the love and support of extended family, friends, church members and coworkers. It’s not a sign of weakness to accept offers to babysit, help with housework, or companionship for a long and anxious doctor’s appointment.
Sometimes we’re afraid to open up to others about the struggles of our day-to-day parenting journey with a special needs child because we don’t think anyone could possibly understand. We also may be afraid of being judged. But the truth is, when we are transparent, it allows others to talk about their own challenges, even if they aren’t the same as ours. We learn from and encourage each other by sharing our struggles. Humility opens the door for fellowship and healing.
“He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city” (Proverbs 16:32).
“Let’s not become discouraged in doing good, for in due time we will reap, if we do not become weary” (Galatians 6:9).
In our fast-paced society, patience seems to be an undervalued virtue, and can even be perceived as a weakness. But Godly wisdom tells us something much different about patience. Nothing will test or grow your patience like parenting, and even more so if you have a child with special needs. Few things are more powerful than a calm spirit in the face of a storm, no matter what form that storm takes.
Sometimes our days may look like we accomplished little, but if we succeeded in keeping our patience during a trying time with our child, we indeed moved mountains. We can be reassured that though if may feel like we simply managed to survive the moment, we’ve made a lasting impact by the love sewn into the heart of our child.
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