Encourage Modest Behavior
Impure thoughts and attitudes can surely lead to impure actions, which is why modest thoughts and a modest attitude are so critically important. Our sons have to remain girded in truth so they aren’t given to the cares of the world: the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life (1John 2:16). Our son's behavior will be a byproduct of what’s in their hearts.
With modest thoughts they will not yield to leading with their sexuality but will let Christ in them lead their behavior. From their body language and gestures to their speech and how they treat girls, their behavior will be befitting a mighty man of valor in the making.
Here are a few principles that we want to sow into their hearts as related to modest behavior. We want to remind them that they are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27). And since they are made in His image, we expect them to act like it, leading peaceable lives that are dignified in every way (1 Timothy 2:2-3). We want them to treat their bodies with respect and honor. We will teach our sons that the body is to be presented as a living sacrifice holy and acceptable unto God (Romans 12:1). We will teach them that their bodies are the temple where the holy spirit dwells and as such they should glorify God in their bodies (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). And finally we will teach them that their behavior should not cause another person to stumble (Matthew 18:6-7).
While the Bible’s few references to modesty are mainly geared toward women’s adornment, let us take care to be mindful of how our sons are adorned. There is an old saying that goes, “Clothes make the man.” While we know that it is God that makes man, how we are adorned certainly influences our attitude and behavior. Additionally, people do make perceptions based on how we (and our children) are dressed. So what does your son’s dress convey? Is he modestly dressed? Does his dress say, “Take me seriously”, “I am a young man with principles”, “I have self-respect.” As you collectively select his clothing, ensure he is first clothed with Christ (Galatians 3:27).
May our sons be modestly clothed in:
May all that our sons do, in thought, attitude, behavior, speech and even in dress bring honor and glory to God.
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