When my son made his arrival into this world 22 years ago, the fact that he was screaming his tiny lungs out pointed to future challenges. I hugged my little miracle in my arms, but I couldn’t get him to stop crying. In the days to follow, he’d cry, and I’d sweat bullets, unsure of what he was trying to communicate. As an inexperienced mom, I couldn’t convey the peace and calm my tiny son needed.
Fortunately, we’ve come a long way since then, and our communication has improved, but parenting holds challenges. No doubt, God uses our children to refine and mold us; at one time or another they disobey us, sass back at us, or exasperate us. I often remember what a wise, more experienced friend told me, “Focus on developing good communication with your child. Build your relationship because that’s what will see you through the stormy times.”
God entrusts our children into our care, so we can communicate to them that He loves them deeply and calls them to love and serve Him. “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children” (Deuteronomy 6:5-7a).
Yet transmitting our faith means more than just talking about it. We convey God’s love best by modeling and living it out. Many parents unwittingly provoke their kids to rebel by using unhealthy patterns of interaction. Positive, affirming communication imparts the Father’s love of God and leads to a positive, peaceful relationship between parents and kids.
Let’s take a look at 5 communication mistakes and how we can avoid them:
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