What may have worked yesterday may not work today, and your teen wants you to know this. They need to be armed with a variety of coping skills from four categories: distraction, calming, processing, and physical. Encourage your teen to try new techniques like guided prayer, journaling, going for a walk in nature, or talking to someone they trust. Every coping strategy isn’t the right strategy for every teen and they will get frustrated. It’s up to us to help them recognize what works and what doesn’t while practicing patience, grace, and unconditional love.
9. They Need Help to Find Joy
Finding joy isn’t a losing battle for teens even though we wonder if they will ever grow out of their moodiness. Every once in a while they need us to help them find their joy. Teens wish their parents understood they can’t always see the bigger picture, nor can they get past the pain, but they want to. They want and need help to find joy.
Aside from opening the curtains in their dark cave of a room, we can inspire them to look for the positive. When the unexpected happens, instead of reacting in fear or anger, we need to teach our teens to find a solution, to find joy in the little things. Countless others like Jacob, Moses, Paul, Peter, and even Jesus, have experienced the ups and downs of life. Yet, they were resilient because they had the ability to anticipate what God was going to do next. And in the midst of the waiting, in the midst of healing from the pain, they learned that gratitude in the little things led to joy.
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