... or the Fireplace.
Our society is productivity-driven. The more we do, the better we feel. The more we are needed, the more valuable we feel. As a result, we tend to pack our days to the fullest.
On the other spectrum, there is much beauty in slowing down. I have had multiple conversations where families have declared never to let their lives get back to the intense pace it was before COVID hit.
December is often the busiest time of the year for moms. We rush around preparing snacks and napkins to send to the school party. Then we hurry to the Christmas performance. In between, we buy, wrap, and distribute gifts to all the important people in our lives while magically making appetizers for the social engagement we have that evening.
While each one of these acts is enjoyable when you add them together, condense them into a few weeks, multiple them by the number of kids you have, this equals some stressed-out mommas.
I have noticed in December; I am the least connected to my family. I spend most of my time doing things for my family, but not with them. Or if I am with them physically, my mind is thinking about the next event and what I need to prepare. This is a sad but ugly truth.
I have talked with numerous moms, and none have cracked the code. How do we enjoy this month chock full of responsibility?
I am hoping this year will be different. No performances at school and no class parties. I’m not trying to be the grinch but the month of December overwhelms me. By the time we reach Christmas, I am exhausted and easily irritated with the ones I love most.
I know for our family, a few of the regular Christmas traditions are canceled. My husband has taken our girls to the Nutcracker for years. It’s a daddy-daughter date that is a come of age privilege. This year we are buying the DVD and sitting at home to watch it together.
Embrace the opportunity to slow down. Don’t rush to fill in every gap with a new activity. When you leave margin in your family’s life, you give God space to show up. Adopt simple activities like sitting around a fire.
Slow down and appreciate each other. If you are not always preparing for the next activity, you can enjoy the one you are in.
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