9. Lonely people stay superficial.
We don’t want to be seen as intrusive or nosy, and we definitely don’t want to be insensitive. As a result, we tend to keep our conversations and our relationships superficial. We rarely navigate into the deeper waters of feelings, dreams, goals, hopes, aspirations, struggles, and conflicts because those waters get choppy awfully quick. However, real connection happens when we take our conversations and our relationships a little past surface level.
10. Lonely people spend a lot of time online
So many of us do much of our work and our lives online. We even spend time online just to socialize. This is an incredible technological advancement, but one that can lead to loneliness if we aren’t careful to build richer personal connections online and in our in-real-life communities.
Not every one of these habits will describe each one of us. This is a generalized list of habits common to lonely people. However, if several of these habits sound familiar and have hit a little too close to home, it would be good to dig a little deeper.
Often our habits come from the life we’ve lived, the experiences that have shaped us, and the people who have influenced us. Some are intentional and some are a result of our environment. They are not our fault, but they can cause us further harm. If our habits are leading to deep feelings of loneliness, examining them and thinking through whether we want to continue in them can make a difference to our futures. We have hope for something different and something better.
Our habits don’t control us. Through the Holy Spirit living inside us, we can have control over our habits. We aren’t slaves to the ways of our past, or even the ways we are right now. Christ is continually making all things new, including us!
If you’re ready to change some habits that have been holding you back from connection and leading you to loneliness, join me in the following prayer:
A Prayer for Ending Habits that Lead to Loneliness
You did not create us to be alone. We were created for community with you and community with others. We believe this and we are willing to look deeper at some of the habits that may be keeping us from connecting with others. Convict us in areas where we need to change. Help us break hurtful habits. Give us the strength to change what we need to change.
Lord, we long for connection. We desire community. Help us do our part.
In Jesus’ name we ask this,
Bobbie Schaeperkoetter is a writer, speaker, community builder, and an encourager of women at http://www.bobbieschae.com. She’s doing her best to honor God in the craziness of everyday life and she’d love to walk alongside you as you do the same. You can connect with Bobbie through her website or on Instagram at http://www.instagram.com/bobbieschae or on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/bobbieschae
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