3 Things to Remember and Practice When you Find Yourself Seeking Others Approval
Desiring approval isn’t bad, as long as it's our Father’s favor we desire, and His alone. So the question becomes how do we course correct?
Prayer is a great place to start. It may seem a redundant answer given to spiritual struggles, but the truth is without a continuous coming to God we will go astray. Prayer refocuses our attention.
“Seek the Lord and his strength; seek his presence continually.” (1 Chronicles 16:11)
When we take the time to practice thankfulness, we become less focused on ourselves and more focused on the goodness of God. When we become more focused on His goodness, it brings our attention to Him, making it less likely to seek others and their approval.
“Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise.” (James 5:13)
Reflection is a way to lean in, to look back before we can move forward. Reflection helps us expose our hiding places and identify what holds us back. In this case, it helps us distinguish why and how we are seeking others' approval. Reflection helps us recognize where God has been in our past, where He is calling us to go, and who He is calling us to be.
“Rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man.” (Ephesians 6:7)
Prayer, gratitude, and reflection are just starting points. It will take time, letting go of other’s opinions, and an intentional effort of seeking God above all else. It is a journey, remember there is grace for you along the way.
A Prayer for Those Living for Others’ Approval
We know it’s you we should come to first and foremost. Yet, in our struggles and seasons of hardship, we are quick to turn to those you’ve placed in our lives before we come to you. When we do this we begin to seek their approval in a way we don’t even realize. May You be the first thing we think of when we wake up, and the last thing we think of before our day ends. May we drop anything and anyone we have put on a pedestal where You belong.
May we remember to not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let our requests be made known to you. And may the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, guard our hearts and minds in You (Philippians 4:6-7).
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