Regrets follow us, haunt us, and accuse us so that they become defining moments in our lives that we can’t move beyond.
If only I had responded with grace instead of judgment. If only my grandparents could have raised me. If only I hadn't lost my temper with my kids. If only I had finished my degree. If only I hadn't been so imprisoned by insecurity and self-worthlessness.
“If only” can crush hopes, steal peace, prevent forgiveness, and trap us in negative patterns of behavior. Regret is the second most frequently mentioned emotion after love. And most people express regret in relationships, careers, or missed opportunities.
But God redeems and restores our regrets. He makes a way when there seems to be no way. He enables us to move past what keeps us bound, and he works our regrets into growth for us.
But how do we overcome them? How do we move past our “if-only” mantras into a life of abundance?
In 2 Corinthians 5:21, we read that Jesus became all our sin so that we might become all of God’s righteousness. This verse trumps any and all regrets that we hold in our hearts due to sin that we commit, the pain inflicted by someone else’s sin, and the troubles of life.
I struggle with areas of pride that keep me separated from God, and I deal with wounds from other people’s choices along with life’s disappointments that cause me to cry, “If only” and long another outcome.
The following are 10 biblical truths to help you overcome your if-only regrets.
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