“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.” Proverbs 31:25 (ESV)
If you had asked me years ago what dignity meant, I would have described it as poise or polish, someone calm, composed, and refined. I pictured a woman who never raised her voice or whose home stayed spotless. Real life is not that way. Real life is unpredictable. What God is teaching me is that the kind of dignity described in Proverbs 31 isn’t pressed, styled, or scheduled. It’s woven.
Dignity Woven by God
The Hebrew word for dignity, hadar, means splendor, honor, and glory. It’s not about appearance, it’s about presence. It’s the reflection of God’s character in a woman’s life. This kind of dignity isn’t earned by performance; it’s bestowed by grace.
Psalm 8:4–5 says, “What is man that You are mindful of him, and the son of man that You care for him? Yet You have made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor.” From the beginning, God wrapped humanity in dignity: his image, His likeness, His love. Sin tried to strip that away, but redemption clothed us again in Christ. When we walk with Him, the Holy Spirit begins to restore what shame once stole.
Like a patient craftsman, God weaves strength and dignity into the fabric of our hearts, thread by thread, through seasons of surrender, waiting, and trust.
Learning to Wear It
For a long time, I struggled to see myself as a woman of dignity. I knew my flaws too well: my impatience, my insecurity, the days when I reacted before praying. Dignity felt like a word for women who had it more together than I did. Dignity is not a crown the Proverbs 31 woman earns or works for; it’s clothing she receives.
Isaiah 61:10 came alive to me: “I will greatly rejoice in the Lord; my soul shall exult in my God, for He has clothed me with the garments of salvation; He has covered me with the robe of righteousness.” That’s the secret. Dignity isn’t something we create; it’s something we put on. It fits because of who our Father is, not because of how flawless we are. The more we walk in our identity as His children, the more naturally we begin to wear His likeness.
Dignity Looks Different
Psalm 131:2 describes dignity so well: “But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child is my soul within me.”
Dignity is the calm that comes from trust. It’s a quiet assurance that God is still good, still present, still weaving beauty through pain. It’s choosing stillness when your heart longs for control. It’s standing firm, not because you’re unshaken, but because you know who holds you steady. That kind of dignity cannot be faked. It’s grown in the soil of surrender.
Dignity in the Ordinary
We often think dignity is evident in grand moments, such as when we endure suffering with grace or handle conflict wisely. But much of the time, it’s seen in the small, hidden acts of everyday faithfulness. When you apologize to your child instead of defending yourself. When you serve your spouse quietly after a disagreement. When you forgive instead of keeping score, when you choose kindness, even when no one notices, that’s where dignity is born, not in applause but in obedience.
Philippians 2:14–15 reminds us, “Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.” Every time you choose grace over resentment, humility over pride, or truth over convenience, another golden thread of dignity is woven into your character
Dignity That Defends
True dignity isn’t fragile; it’s a shield. It guards us from insecurity and offense. When we know who we are in Christ, we no longer need to prove our worth or fight for validation. Proverbs 31:26 says, “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Her words carry peace because her heart rests in truth. She doesn’t need to raise her voice to be heard. Her quiet confidence speaks volumes.
That’s the kind of woman I long to be, not one who wins every argument, but one whose presence brings calm—a woman whose dignity deflects the chaos around her because it’s rooted in something unshakable within her.
When Dignity Feels Distant
There are days when dignity feels far away – there are mornings I don’t feel strong or grace-filled. But if I choose to spend time in His Word, He reminds me AGAIN that dignity isn’t a feeling; it’s a fact because of who I am in Christ.
Romans 8:16–17 says, “The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs — heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ.” That truth never changes. Your weaknesses, past, or failures do not define you. You are covered in His righteousness, wrapped in His favor, and crowned with His compassion.
Even when you don’t feel dignified, you are, because your dignity comes from being His.
Passing It Down
As the years go by, I’ve realized that how I wear dignity will shape how the next generation learns to wear it too. When my children or grandchildren see me respond with grace instead of anger, they know what peace looks like. When they see me forgive instead of retaliate, they learn the value of mercy. When they see me walk through uncertainty with faith instead of fear, they know the courage to do the same.
Dignity is discipleship. It’s not taught by lecture but by living.
My prayer is that long after I’m gone, those who knew me best will remember not perfection, but peace. A woman who walked slowly, trusted deeply, and loved steadily because she was clothed in God’s strength and dignity. That’s the beauty I want to pass down. It is something the world can’t manufacture, because it’s been hand-woven by God. Over time, His peace fits perfectly across your shoulders. His patience drapes beautifully over your words. His kindness becomes the thread that ties every part of your life together.
Colossians 3:12 says, “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.”
That’s the beauty of a life woven by His Spirit. Strength and dignity are intertwined until they become who you are.
Let’s Pray
Lord, thank You for clothing me in the beauty of Your righteousness. When I feel unworthy or unseen, remind me that my dignity comes from You alone. Help me to wear it well — not to draw attention to myself, but to reflect Your peace and steadiness in every season. Weave Your character into the fabric of my heart until strength and dignity become my daily garments. In Jesus’ name, amen.
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Related Resource: Calm for Your Anxious Soul: A Conversation with Becky Keife
Have you ever lain in bed at night, exhausted—but unable to quiet your thoughts? Or felt that tightness in your chest, the racing worries, the sense that you should be okay… but you’re not? If that sounds familiar, today’s episode of The Love Offering Podcast was recorded with you in mind.
I’m joined by my dear friend Becky Keife to talk about her new devotional, A Verse a Day for the Anxious Soul—and this conversation is both tender and deeply hopeful. Becky shares her own journey with anxiety, the freedom that came through honesty, and the simple, grace-filled ways God meets us right in the middle of our anxious moments.
We talk about:
• Why anxiety is so common—and why you’re not weak for feeling it
• How Scripture offers real comfort for weary, overwhelmed hearts
• Practical peace practices you can actually live out (even on hard days)
• Letting go of shame and learning to receive God’s compassion
• Resting in God’s presence when you don’t even have words to pray
What I love most about Becky’s approach is this reminder: God doesn’t shame us for our anxiety. He draws near. He invites us to come, to rest, and to receive His peace—one breath, one prayer, one verse at a time.
If your soul has been craving calm, reassurance, or simply the reminder that you are not alone, this episode will be a gift to you.
Originally published Friday, 02 January 2026.
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