Originally published Tuesday, 07 May 2013.
This May I am introducing a new theme on broken relationships and breakups.
I also wrote a new eBook entitled Loves Me Not: Heartbreak & Healing God's Way that releases on Amazon and Barnes & Noble TODAY for only 2.99! If you've read Not Another Dating Book, you'll notice I don't talk about my story. That's because it wasn't until after I submitted my manuscript to Harvest House that I met my husband Marc. That's why I'm excited to release my follow up with features including:
+ Why Guarding Your Heart Isn't Enough
+ Can Men and Women Be "Just Friends"?
+ Desperate Singles
+ Breaking Up With "The One"
+ Why Changing Your Significant Other Won't Work
+ The Right Way To Breakup
+ How To Handle A Breakup
+ How To Be Your Own (Single) Person
+ Why Breakups Are Hard
+ He (Jesus) Loves You!
+ How I Met My Husband Marc
Below is an excerpt from Loves Me Not on why breakups are hard.
"Breakups sting because our hearts were never meant to experience heartbreak. The tree Adam and Eve ate from is called The Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil (Genesis 3:5). It’s interesting that it wasn’t enough for them to know; they had to taste and experience this (good versus evil). I got this idea from Ray Bentley, my pastor, who shared recently just how crafty the enemy was. Satan chose his words carefully while deceiving Adam and Eve (who took the first bite). They already knew God. It was through this close and personal fellowship with God that they talked about all things. Even evil.
But it wasn’t enough for Adam and Eve to talk about the meaning of evil with God. They had to experience it for themselves.
That’s when sin entered the world. It didn’t take long for heartbreak (sin) to take effect. Soon Adam and Eve experienced loss. Cain, their first-born son, murdered their second-born son, Abel. Can you imagine the guilt they must have felt for disobeying God, yet also the experience of grace when Eve gave birth to Seth, their third child (Genesis 4:25)?
As you navigate the realm of relationships in your own life, I encourage you to ask God to give you the wisdom to choose each relationship wisely.
Proverbs 12:26 (NIV) says, “The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”
The hard part is letting God determine who is good. That means no rebounds. No one-night stands. No more hiding. Pursuing relationships peacefully and cautiously is a mandate designed by God for our protection. Instead of jumping from one relationship into another, choose your friends wisely—even the ones who help you overcome heartbreak."
To enter to win a copy of Loves Me Not, simply leave a comment below, telling why YOU think breakups are so hard.
A winner will be chosen at random on May 15. [Photos: Charlie.Paul, Flickr]