The Key Difference between Surviving and Thriving
- 2014 Nov 24
As mothers, it can be hard to escape the barrage of constant requests and find time to clear our minds. It can be hard to give proper attention to our own needs, like eating or getting sleep ourselves. When you compound that with the necessity of meeting life's challenges that inevitably arise along the way, it's easy to worry and get overwhelmed.
That's why something strategic happens when we gather for mealtime at my house. After wrangling my littler one into his seat, having lengthy discussions with my older one about why we aren’t having candy before the meal, and reminding both of my boys to put their food down until we’ve blessed it, we are ready! We say a prayer, and then we go around the table and say three things that each of us is thankful for. Every day.
I’m trying to foster a grateful heart in my family. Thanksgiving is the best antidote to worry and anxiety (Philippians 4:6). It's therefore an important life skill. I recently read that anxiety is on the rise in our country, with the depression rate growing by about 20% per year. Couple that with society's increasing pressure on our children to excel, and there is a dangerous crucible. Teaching our children the value of thankfulness is a way of grounding them. They are more inclined to see the larger picture of God's grace and orient themselves accordingly.
A spirit of thanksgiving doesn't just equip our children to be stronger on life's journey, but it frees us up as moms to better enjoy our own. I have heard many experienced parents say that the days go by slowly but the years go by quickly when raising children. Even though the days can be slow - and frustrating and draining at times - they are also filled with beauty. I want to nurture a heart that doesn't miss out on the good that God has brought into my life.
I am convinced that a spirit of thanksgiving is the key difference between being a mom who is surviving versus a mom who is thriving. It’s a difference in perspective. When we are able to praise God without ceasing, no situation can get us down. We can use our strength to meet life's challenges rather than wasting effort in anxiety or worry. And we can better enjoy the present moment all the while. A Christian who knows the power of thanksgiving is an unstoppable force. And a mom who knows it - well, she's the kind of mom I want to be.
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Rev. Noelle Kirchner, MDiv., believes we don’t have to live with full schedules and thin souls. A busy mom of three boys, she is passionate about making faith fresh and relevant. Noelle is a graduate of Princeton Seminary and an ordained Presbyterian minister who has served in churches for over ten years. She has written for places like the TODAY Show Parenting Team, Huff Post Parents, The Laundry Moms, and (in)courage. Her faith and family cable television show, Chaos to Calm, features parenting hot topics and has hosted two New York Times bestselling authors. Watch her episodes or sermons, connect with her on social media, and follow her blog by visiting her website, or receive her free devotional e-book.