Jolene Underwood is an emotional health warrior, and soul care mentor. She writes from a place of compassion for wounded Christians to encourage and equip them in a life of spiritual growth with emotional health. She draws upon her personal experiences, her psychology background, and a passion for Christian counseling to help others cultivate a life well-lived no matter the circumstance.
Jolene writes regularly at JoleneUnderwood.com. She also leads a community of writers called Rise Up Writers. Her tool, Unleash : Heart and Soul Care Sheets, has helped hundreds experience greater freedom. When she’s not writing, you’ll find her enjoying the journey by laughing with loved ones or adding to her collection of vintage glassware with a 70s flair.
Eventually, I wanted to watch this little alien film called "Home" too. Daddy D' knew I’d enjoy the story, the character, and the many word plays using
The beloved protagonist? An alien creature named, “Oh.” So called because when others see him their disappointed response is “Oh”.
Feelings new and old hovered near me. Remembrances of abandonment and sighs
Can you relate?
I could learn a little fortitude in loving others from this squishy creature.
When Oh converses with a young girl named ‘Tip’, he relates to her hurting heart. She shared how her mom
Then he says one
“I do not fit in, I fit out.”
Too well do I know the feelings of being an outsider. Strange, flawed & beyond repair. A mistake. An Oh.
But, it’s a lie.
Any time we listen to the enemy tell us we are unredeemable, unlikable, unlovable, and undesirable, it’s a lie. Even when we experience rejection here on earth, even when we make a lot of mistakes, and even when it seems no one cares & we’re left feeling alone, the truth of who we are lies at the core of our being not in the world
Our true identity lies in the fabric of who
We will make mistakes. We will fail. But, we are not failures.
This spry creature kept smiling, kept dreaming & kept believing good was best. He knew what others thought of him, but he knew something of himself too.
He fit out.
God used my longing to fit in to lead me into greater freedom. In a time of healing prayer
As I recalled this memory and asked God to speak truth
To be holy is to
I do not fit
Part of me recoils in even sharing these words which Jesus gave me. If I tell you I believe Jesus said I'm set apart, I fear you may see me as being pretentious or self-serving. I fear you would believe I think I’m better than you. These words rack my inner being because I struggle
But I am.
So are you.
Hand selected by God for His good purposes in and through us. Designed with unique ways of being and living that require guidance from Him and not others.
He chose us before the foundation of the world. He chose you. Not to fit in to the world, but to fit out.
What freed me most in this moment is when I looked at the rest of the players and realized something else. I
Then I knew. I knew I had to stop looking at things which I cannot do well, wishing it were different. I don’t have to belong to every group everywhere. I need to be where God has called me to be, and in that place is freedom, peace and joy a thousand-fold.
I'm talking to Jesus in new ways these days.
God, help me come into the out today.
When we fit out, we fit with Him, right where we fit in the best.