10 Ways You Might be Exasperating Your Children

10 Ways You Might be Exasperating Your Children

Do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. - Ephesians 6:4

No matter how hard we try, there’s just no such thing as a perfect parent. It’s a difficult job with lots of important aspects. One of the essentials is to provide our children with emotional security. And with parenting being so fast and furious—a non-stop event—we often forget how our words and actions can have lasting effects.

Maybe there’s no standard-issue handbook, no clear-cut formula to follow, but we do have God’s Word to guide us in how to encourage our kids in becoming who God created them to be. His Word gives us instruction as to how to parent without provoking our children to discouragement, resentfulness, and anger.

With the above Scripture in mind, let’s take a look at 10 possible ways we could be exasperating our children without realizing it. 

1. You may be exasperating your child by being overly protective OR too permissive.

As our children grow older, like it or not, we have to give them some freedom to make their own decisions and experience certain aspects of life for themselves. Without it, they become fearful and later resentful that we’ve held the reins too tight and for too long.

This means giving them the opportunity to actually fail—as long as the liberty is appropriate and not one that could lead to a life-altering consequence. An occasional failure works to make our kids resilient and teaches coping skills.

On the other hand, despite the current free-range trend, kids really need and desire structure, security, and our guidance. They’re not chickens; they’re small humans who need to know we care what they do and where they go. And they’re also the people who’ll one day lead this country.

Ask God to help you find the balance between micromanaging and hands-off to guide your child on their journey to adulthood.

See Proverbs 22:6

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