10 Ways a Man Makes His Wife Feel Ugly without Saying a Thing

10 Ways a Man Makes His Wife Feel Ugly without Saying a Thing

Days before I got married, my pastor’s wife told me, “Your husband will never intentionally hurt you.” Twenty-two years later, I believe she was right—for the most part. Yet the key word is “intentionally”. Even though the average guy isn’t making it his mission to hurt his wife, he can unintentionally leave her feeling rejected, unseen, devalued—and ugly—without ever saying a thing.

Feeling beautiful is complicated. At the surface, there’s never been a woman who hated a good hair day. And should her salon-fresh locks catch the eye of her husband, she’s likely to hold her head higher, for she has captivated her man. But beauty runs much deeper, and when a husband fails to recognize his wife’s many stunning qualities, pain and resentment can set in.

Before I dive into this topic, it’s important know one thing: A woman must, above all, understand she is beautiful in the eyes of her Creator. Though she may look to her husband for validation, she must first “let the King be enthralled by [her] beauty” (Psalm 45:11).

And now, here are 10 ways a man makes his wife feel ugly without saying a thing:

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1. He withholds compliments.

A woman longs to be noticed, and when her husband—the one whose opinion matters most—fails to give a compliment, she begins to wonder, “Am I still lovely? Is something wrong with me?”

So if woman looks attractive while putting on jewelry, she wants her husband to tell her. If a man is amazed at his wife’s ability to multi-task, he needs to let her know. If a woman whips-up the most incredible shrimp linguini, her husband should suggest she open a restaurant. 

It’s no surprise that when a woman’s heart is weighed down, “a kind word cheers it up” (Proverbs 12:25). 

 

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