A Prayer to Stop Mourning People Who Let You Down

Meg Bucher

Published Jul 05, 2023

"You have mourned long enough for Saul." 1 Samuel 16:1 NLT

God places people in our lives purposefully. We are not meant to live alone. However, we were also never meant to loft any human relationship over the one we have with our Father, God. In the verse above, God pretty much tells Samuel to get over the fact Saul has disappointed his expectations and move on. Has God ever bluntly told you to move on from someone who has let you down?

"Now the LORD said to Samuel, 'You have mourned long enough for Saul. I have rejected him as king of Israel, so fill your flask with olive oil and go to Bethlehem. Find a man named Jesse who lives there, for I have selected one of his sons to be my king.'" 1 Samuel 16:1 NLT

The word for mourned in this passage of Scripture means to mourn and lament. Those words carry a dramatic undertone! Mourn is to express such sorrow as if someone has died; lament is feeling grief, sorrow, or regret. I would love to label Samuel overdramatic, but I have felt this way over a friend who has devastated me with disappointment. Dramatic, I know! But that's how it feels. Regret is a terrible emotion, circling sorrow, remorse, fault, and disappointment. It's a vicious cycle we can really get stuck in!

Samuel did snap out of it and moved on to obey God and anoint David as the next king. David looked nothing like King Saul nor someone the people would pick. But that is the heart of God. When someone disappoints us, it hurts. When a close friend, one we thought would stick closer than a brother, betrays us – it's a tough pill to swallow. God will snap us out of our mourning when the time is right, and if we obey Him, we will find another friend. On the other side of heartache, we are one lesson closer to the person we are becoming in Christ. God prepared David to be king through suffering (ESV Global Study Bible). When someone disappoints us, we have to look in the mirror and realize we have fallen short and disappointed people. Jesus promised:

"I am leaving you with a gift – peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don't be troubled or afraid." John 14:27

The world will not tell us to forgive and pray for the person who disappointed us. But Jesus does. I don't know about you, but I'll take the peace that surpasses all understanding and choose to look confidently ahead, knowing God is the guardian of my soul. I will anticipate the friendships to come expectantly and refuse to look back.

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Meg BucherMeg writes about everyday life within the love of Christ at megbucher.comShe is the author of “Friends with Everyone, Friendship within the Love of Christ,” “Surface, Unlocking the Gift of Sensitivity,” “Glory Up, The Everyday Pursuit of Praise,” “Home, Finding Our Identity in Christ,” and "Sent, Faith in Motion." Meg earned a Marketing/PR degree from Ashland University but stepped out of the business world to stay home and raise her two daughters …which led her to pursue her writing passion. A contributing writer for Salem Web Network since 2016, Meg is now thrilled to be a part of the editorial team at Salem Web Network. Meg loves being involved in her community and local church, leads Bible study, and serves as a youth leader for teen girls.

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