Singles need love this holiday season.
I’m not talking about the kind that jumps into your bed and leaves in the middle of the night—that’s lust. I'm talking about the inescapable, never-ending kind of love that only Jesus can bring and only He can fill.
Love is not found in another one night-stand. Not in another piece of pumpkin pie or Christmas cookie. Not even in one of those holiday “free matches weekend” through an online dating website.
No! No! No!
The month before I met my husband Marc was the loneliest month ever. I hated the thought of spending one more holiday season alone. After spending almost my entire twenties single, December and I did not get along.
I am sure you can relate. Singleness has a tendency to wear on you. Between the dinners, party hopping, and family events, it can be quite difficult to feel comfortable in your own skin. Then there’s the dreaded question asked every year. Please don’t ask me why others presume the single most important question to ask a single person during the holidays:
“How was your love life--why are you still single?”
May I please apologize on behalf of every married person who has ever asked their single friends why they are still single? This is unacceptable and pathetic even. In good faith and to show that I’m trustworthy, here are a few paragraphs from my journal during the month of December.
“I’m really struggling. Nobody to hide behind. No crushes…No more chasing boys. I can see that it’s the right thing to do--and how the timing isn’t right…Please take away my singleness. After all these years. Please [Lord]. I need you to show up strong in my life.
If you are single this Christmas holiday season I want you to know that you are not alone. Instead of feeling stuck at the kids table like you don’t belong--here are seven ways to help you survive and thrive through the New Year.