A few years ago, a friend broke up with me. It sounds dramatic, but that's what it was – a breakup. For years we lived in the same city and were each other’s wing-woman during the unpredictable years as single women. When I got married and moved to a different state, we kept in touch. I visited a few times, and she came to visit me.
It wasn't until after my first daughter was born that our friendship began to drift. One day I sent her an email asking her what happened to our friendship. Her response shocked me and brought me to tears. It read just like a break-up email (or text) from a boyfriend might read. I had gone through enough heartache with boyfriend breakups during my single years to know the verbiage well. There was no real reason, no event where I did something to hurt her. It was just over. She didn't want to be my friend anymore.
Now I have a five-year-old daughter, and I often hear the cry, "She said she doesn't want to be my friend anymore!" I wish I could tell my daughter that one day she and her friends will grow up and know how to be good friends to each other. That's what I thought would happen, at least. You expect friendship drama in childhood and especially in adolescence. But friendship challenges in womanhood blindsided me.
I wish I could say that my friendship breakup was my only difficult friendship situation, but it's not. In fact, it seems the older I get the harder friendship becomes. There are many factors that play into this, but I want to share a few lessons God is teaching me about friendship and how I'm learning to have honest conversations about hard things.
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